Comments on: When I grow up I want to be a guiltless mom

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By: Christine

Christine — Tue, 28 Jul 2009 18:32:58 +0000

There’s a great YouTube video of Leslie Bennetts talking about the risks involved when someone gives up a career to be a caretaker. Here’s the link:

http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=Z7GV_LY0f3U

By: Miss M @ M is for Money

Miss M @ M is for Money — Wed, 22 Jul 2009 19:18:51 +0000

My mom always worked but when I was younger she would leave early to be home by the time I got out of school. Once i hit middle school I was a latch key kid, and I wouldn’t have it any other way! My parents and I are very different and spending time with them is stressful to me. Having a working mom as a role model makes me more confident that I can do the same, she did pretty damn well balancing work and family. I never felt neglected or sad that my mom wasn’t home all day, I turned out just fine. For my own kids, staying home won’t be an option unless we want to live in a box on the street. I’m the breadwinner and I don’t see that ever changing. Mr Mom might be staying home though! Like you said, you have to do what works for you and your family, don’t let others judge what is best for you.

By: FB @ FabulouslyBroke.com

FB @ FabulouslyBroke.com — Wed, 22 Jul 2009 13:41:25 +0000

I think this is exactly what I want, but you put it into the right words to convey what I wanted to say.

Being a guiltless, no-nonsense “I do this because I love you”, is the kind of mom I want to be.

I am thinking about being a freelancing mom however. Working half the year, or the whole year and then taking time off here and there, kind of like what we’re doing now

By: Cindy

Cindy — Wed, 22 Jul 2009 01:11:07 +0000

I am a stay at home Mom & my Mom was a stay at home Mom. But I totally agree with you “all Moms are trying to make the best choices for themselves and their families” I am tired of the debate. Who Cares???? It’s just like the Breastfeeding vs. Bottlefeeding debate why does it matter if the baby was breastfed or bootle fed at least it was fed!
Great Post!

By: Serendipity

Serendipity — Wed, 22 Jul 2009 00:18:46 +0000

I can see how working moms feel and stay at home moms. My mom worked off and on, (paralegal work) but retired early as she got ill. I remember her going to school but having my grandparents around alot more than other kids. I never have resented my mother for any descions she made, I think alot of people play the working mom hype/ stay at home mom hype way too much. I don’t think theirs no right way to be a mom. I remember my mom teaching me how to be strong, value my education and work hard to become whatever I wanted to be. I am pretty sure that a working mom is what my future holds, at least part time because I would probably get bored. Plus, maybe not paying my way per say but contributing something to the household is what I can at least do. My good friend is a single working mother and her mantra is “Nobody knows how to be a parent. You do the best you can and see where it goes from there.” I think thats a nice one too.

By: psychsarah

psychsarah — Tue, 21 Jul 2009 17:13:43 +0000

I think I’ll print that last sentence in banner form and plaster it across my walls if I decide to be a mother.

By: gwen

gwen — Tue, 21 Jul 2009 09:04:06 +0000

Sorry, but your link to Fabulously Broke is… well, broken. It ought to be http://www.fabulouslybroke.com/

Also, I liked your post. I wish I could come up with something more articulate, but a lot of the current motherhood dialogue seems to say too much about “right” ways to be a mother, as if they existed, context-free.