My birthday falls within a few weeks of Christmas, so for most of my childhood I’ve gotten a combined birthday-Christmas present (in high school, my parents started giving me monetary gifts).
When CB and I got together, I told him that I wanted separate birthday and Christmas presents - I love to have multiple boxes or bags to open. So, CB gives me separate presents, every year.
Great presents do not a great relationship make. But I think as in all interpersonal relationships, what gestures represent speaks volumes. People certainly shouldn’t go into debt for gift-giving or demand a case of champagne on a beer budget, but the thought behind presents matters and the effort put into selecting or making a present matters.
I don’t really care how much CB spends on my gifts (and the costs vary – one year, I got a pearl pendant. Another year, a sweatshirt), but the fact that he cares enough about giving me separate presents because they were important to me matters a whole lot.
So, to everyone whose birthdays fall closely to Christmas – do you get / want separate presents? I can’t be the only one who wants distinct presents for distinct occasions, right?









He told me that the earrings didn’t cost much, and I told him I loved them. Then I wore them every waking hour for the rest of the weekend.