Comments on: Buying A Home Together Before Marriage – Yay or Nay?

By: Victoria

Victoria — Wed, 02 Mar 2011 23:34:53 +0000

My boyfriend and I have been together for 3 years. We just bought a house and we’re closing on Friday. We have plans on getting married but we really want to have a big wedding and it just seems more logical to us to invest our savings on a house first. Right now it’s really the best time for purchasing a home anyways, so why not be more practical. We love each other and as long as you trust your partner everything should work out just fine.

By: attiesgirl

attiesgirl — Sun, 26 Dec 2010 23:08:41 +0000

Too many people think owning a home, means us forever or is a large step to permanence. Wrong, financial responsibility and debts are the biggest cause of divorce.

By: cee

cee — Sun, 26 Dec 2010 23:06:25 +0000

sorry that happened. My man friend just started this with another woman. They plan it, you got the cash, they incorporate their portion and all the sudden the truth comes out. Good for you for not just saying okay, I accept this. LOL The dimwit woman with my manfriend, thinks there will be marriage and well. I told him he has to get his own home he can afford on his own, and be proud and then I will be with him. Never ever be a mom to a man. I hope by now you have found a good loving person, who will share and be fair. My man friend is back with me and he is has purchased his own place and it makes him a man not a user. lots of good luck

By: caroline

caroline — Sun, 26 Dec 2010 23:00:48 +0000

the man i was seeing bought a home with a friend (she thinks they are more) and she did not know about me, nor I about her and I broke it off with him. She has the money and he has a need. I guess what I am saying, without an engagement nor any commitment, buying a home with another only means you are buying a home and a single man and a single woman as joint tenants, means exactly a home bought with two single people. She was thinking marriage in the future, and he was thinking I have a home and a tax write off, and women on the side. Who knows what people think, but I personally would never buy a home prior to marriage.

By: Sai

Sai — Fri, 17 Dec 2010 19:01:40 +0000

Am I too late on this?

My boyfriend and I just bought our first house last summer. It is amazing! I actually enjoy paying down mortgage and increase my equity.

We've been together for 6 years. We lived with our parents (2 years with mine while we were still in school, and 1 year with his after college) to save some money. After graduating college (2 years ago), we decided not to get married (to save money). We paid off all our school loan ourselves (we each had 1 year intership during school). We didn't want to pay 40-50K for a wedding and a honeymoon, so we saved up for a downpayment.

All my friends thought I was crazy. But we both knew what we wanted in life. Finanical freedom and to share it with each other.

I don't think buying a home nor getting married is a milestone in my life.

By: Jake

Jake — Tue, 14 Sep 2010 21:01:48 +0000

Well, I live in Indiana and can't get married to my man here … so I guess we will just have to go through a few extra hoops and hope for the best!

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By: JMD

JMD — Tue, 12 Jan 2010 11:26:44 +0000

Sometimes there is no choice, my partner and I bought our first house together in 2000, before same-sex couples had the option of marriage in the UK.

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By: Laura

Laura — Wed, 06 Jan 2010 00:06:15 +0000

I would not want to buy a house together with someone if I wasn't at least engaged. Luckily, I bought my house when I was single back in 2007, so I don't have to worry about it. My boyfriend and I have talked about him buying a house or condo that we could later on rent out.

I do like to joke and tell him that I bought the first house so the next one (and likely bigger one) is on him!

By: Onegirl

Onegirl — Tue, 05 Jan 2010 12:26:08 +0000

Also to add, moving in together and buying property together is a very serious thing. I didn't realize how much trouble I could have gotten into if he tried to sue me or talked to a lawyer. I was betting against him going through all that trouble because of his finances, and it worked in my favor. If I was dealing with someone who knew what was going on, I'm sure things would have been very different.
Sorry for the novel.

By: Onegirl

Onegirl — Tue, 05 Jan 2010 12:25:47 +0000

He was an idiot. HA!!HA!! Actually, that didn't bother him at all. We weren't at the stage where we were talking about marriage and a serious future. I was tired of renting, and his roommates were moving in with their girlfriends, so I think he just thought it was the thing to do. Since he didn't have a lot of money (aside from the down payment), he wasn't really involved in the details of whose name was on it, etc, etc… He just wanted a garage to work on cars and a yard for his dog. When he stopped paying his half of the bills, I knew I needed to make my move and get him out of there before I would be stuck living in a house with no lights. HA! Again, I was very proactive about saving and knew what I had to do. My parents were worried for me, but they let me make my own decision. I told them that I knew how much house I could afford, and they let me fly. I'm almost done paying off my house, btw. It's great.

By: TheAnalyst

TheAnalyst — Tue, 05 Jan 2010 05:26:44 +0000

Congrats to you on 7 years! Doing great!

Wow, I can see I wrote my response in a sleepy phase, with all the grammatical errors. Glad you got the point.

By: TheAnalyst

TheAnalyst — Mon, 04 Jan 2010 23:30:30 +0000

Smart idea! I just got my IRS check. *happy dance*

By: Julie

Julie — Mon, 04 Jan 2010 22:15:17 +0000

I say yay. My husband and I bought a house together in 2004 (NOT a buyer's market) before we were even engaged. We knew we wanted to spend the rest of our lives together, marriage or not, and it worked out well for us.

By: WellHeeled

WellHeeled — Mon, 04 Jan 2010 20:06:56 +0000

Thanks for checking out my blog! I agree with you on the trust thing – although there's trust, then there's trust with a $300K+ mortgage.

By: WellHeeled

WellHeeled — Mon, 04 Jan 2010 20:05:43 +0000

Hi Karin, thanks for visitng all the way from Australia! I think it's super interesting to see how different countries treat domestic partnership couples vs. married people – in the U.S. it's extremely difficult (and would take a lot of legal documents & money) to duplicate the benefits awarded to married couples.

By: WellHeeled

WellHeeled — Mon, 04 Jan 2010 19:16:32 +0000

Definitely agree on the need for clear expectations – relationship-wise as well as finance-wise.