Comments on: Do You Have a Story to Tell on Money & Relationships?

By: Biggest money conflict ever: Is my career worth it?

Biggest money conflict ever: Is my career worth it? — Sun, 09 May 2010 16:50:14 +0000

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By: Money Attitudes In Relationship

Money Attitudes In Relationship — Thu, 01 Apr 2010 07:02:02 +0000

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By: Long distance relationships and saving money

Long distance relationships and saving money — Thu, 01 Apr 2010 06:48:38 +0000

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By: MoneyReasons Weekly Cache – 2010, Feb 07 | Money Reasons

MoneyReasons Weekly Cache – 2010, Feb 07 | Money Reasons — Sun, 07 Feb 2010 07:28:29 +0000

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By: Tisi

Tisi — Sat, 06 Feb 2010 03:53:25 +0000

Like Nina, I am employed and my boyfriend is not. Only the difference is I am the one in law school.

He's been spottily employed for a few years now, and I'm pretty sure it's because he doesn't have a degree. Most of the jobs he's eligible for are carried a high risk of getting fired, since one unskilled worker is as good as another as far as big corporations go. The local small businesses aren't hiring in this economy. He just entered a university to try and fix all of this, but I'm afraid of what his student debt will be by the time he graduates.

This is the reason we haven't gotten married. Not just his employment, but his finances in general. I'm in the middle of cleaning up my own financial mess, and I've hamstrung myself from the get go by paying for him (and making some other absolutely foolish financial decisions trying to help him). I won't marry him unless he gets his financial act together.

But finances aren't the only thing to a relationship. Obviously the pros still outweigh the cons for me.

By: WellHeeled

WellHeeled — Thu, 04 Feb 2010 19:57:50 +0000

I am very glad you chose the vacation – that's what I would've chosen as well. His assumption that it'd be "no big deal" for you to give up your savings to him raises a huge red flag.

By: Run ‘Round The Blogosphere 2/4/2010 | Well-Heeled Blog

Run ‘Round The Blogosphere 2/4/2010 | Well-Heeled Blog — Thu, 04 Feb 2010 19:09:43 +0000

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By: Faithful Cents

Faithful Cents — Thu, 04 Feb 2010 17:26:49 +0000

This is a great post.
I believe that when dating money isnt an issue. He has his and I have mine. When we go some where either of us picks up the tab (its usually him old fashioned, which I love!) I sometimes ask him why he spend money on something but he just replies its my money and likewise. We don't live together so maybe that also contributes to the lack of issues.

But I think if there are problems in a marriage about money its becausepeople didn't talk about money when they got engaged. As one of my wise friends who is married says: when you get married its no longer my money and your money. He says you and your honey have to beon the same page when it comes to goals for your COMBINED future together. He also doesn't believe in the his account, her account and out account. His philosophy is that you become one and therefore everything tangible must become one. I will also follow this philosophy but its important that you know what kind of WALLET you are marrying…don't want to find out after the honeymoon you honey has 66k in unsecured debt…..

By: MoneyHoneySF

MoneyHoneySF — Wed, 03 Feb 2010 21:46:20 +0000

From Mrs. MoneyHoneySF myself, I would have to say we don't really have any money conflict in our relationship since we got married. But before that while dating, we use to butt heads on alot of things. He is naturally a saver, I am naturally a spender. But over the years we have come to a point where I have made myself save more now, and he has opened up his wallet more. Please come visit my site at http://moneyhoneysf.blogspot.com/ when you get a chance. Please inform your viewers as well. Thanks in advance! Btw, that is a great idea you have and also loving the title "my HONEY, my MONEY"

By: J. Money

J. Money — Wed, 03 Feb 2010 17:49:48 +0000

Hey, cool idea! I'll participate look for an email.

By: nina

nina — Wed, 03 Feb 2010 02:56:08 +0000

I'm employed and he is not.

My boyfriend of one year is increasingly strapped for cash as he finishes his last semester in law school. The stress of looking for a decent salary in a decent firm and anticipating 4-6 weeks of studying for the bar has him in knots.

We really like one another. That said, things are fairly new. But he has been asking me for money. I admitted to him this year was slated as my vacation savings year- with the pay off being the first trip outside of the country. Only, my vacation savings have become a HUGE issue because he feels I could just give that up to help him.

No advice needed on the vaca funds, year end will find me in a sunny, foreign location. Less clear about if it was shortsighted of me to be so transparent about my financial goals. Maybe that should have remained my secret.

No more than I can be assured he will choose to stay around and spend the lawyers salary on me, I am not comfortable committing my financial resources to someone who may not last the long run.