Comments on: Elizabeth Gilbert and (Ex) Husband Michael Cooper On Money

By: julia

julia — Fri, 16 Dec 2011 23:00:56 +0000

Did she ever get ripped off in that divorce…..the best advice I've ever read to women who marry is to get savvy on money and no matter how sure you are that your fiance would never do this to you – get a good legal agreement anyway, that favors you. Men turn on women all of the time, and the courts usually work in their favor.

I live in Oregon and lots of people get married in the National Forest with a band that comes out to play and a wooden dance floor they set up. Not as inexpensive as a backyard wedding, but hardly thousands of dollars, either.

By: india

india — Sun, 11 Dec 2011 04:20:30 +0000

The man needs to man up and not accept alimony anymore. If I was his wife I wouldn’t want another woman supporting me and my kids because she will alwAys be there in the background lingering.

EPL is a great story! We all deserve to seek our Happiness! “There is no such thing as rejection, but the wrong fit” and sometimes it takes awhile for some people to realize that and do something in their lives.

By: moby doug

moby doug — Wed, 02 Nov 2011 00:22:00 +0000

(cont'd)Gents, don't blame the BOOK or the author for what went wrong in your marriages. And no, I'm not a huge fan of the book. I think it's clever but glib, dilletantish, and journalistic chick lit. However, it does offer frustrated wives and bachelorettes a nice, cheap, packaged wet dream of travel, cuisine, affairs, and spiritual enlightenment…..as does the movie. There's a place for it in the world, just like there's a place for male wetdreams like super hero comix.

By: moby doug

moby doug — Wed, 02 Nov 2011 00:21:23 +0000

Gilbert has made millions since she spent a mere $10,000 on that first wedding. I'm sure she prefers the memories she bought (however bittersweet) to the "nest egg." What probably bothers her more is that her first hubby hit her up for BIG alimony payments. NOT gentlemanly of him. My first wife was making more than I at the time we divorced, and I didn't want any of her money and don't regret that decision for a minute. I'm perfectly capable of supporting myself. I notice Gilbert make sure Felipe, her 2nd hubby, signed a pre-nup. No wonder. No reason for her to hand over half of everything she owns if her marriage goes down the tubes. Finally, as for those men who feel like Gilbert's book drove their wives to divorce them: messages about oppressed wives yearning for freedom have been commonplace in literature for more than a century. Think of Ibsen's A Dollhouse, written about 1880, not to mention Madame Bovary, Anna Karenina (both from mid 19th Century) and countless others.

By: liv

liv — Thu, 14 Jul 2011 05:19:42 +0000

Gosh, not to be the jealous type, but starting out with $10 grand seems so lush to me.

By: Ludo

Ludo — Sun, 03 Jul 2011 22:18:09 +0000

Similar story here! My ex was going through – what can best be described – as a quarterlife crisis. She was having doubts. Just days after she told me she couldn't do without me……she went and saw the movie. Just days after that my world came tumbling down……….And she did the same thing, went to the other side of the world, ate, prayed, and found what appears to be love……..(I can just imagine her thinking that it 'was all ment to be' just like in the film.)

By: senza

senza — Wed, 12 Jan 2011 04:00:33 +0000

she got sued: http://www.courthousenews.com/2010/11/17/New_Comp... http://www.courthousenews.com/2010/11/17/New_Comp...

By: Marg

Marg — Sun, 02 Jan 2011 21:24:19 +0000

Eat Love Pray: I believe she realized at the end of her journery that true love does not exist and good marraiges and relationships are not made from cookie cutters. Besides love and compatibility, compromises and slfless acts are part of every relationship. These qualities seemed to be lacking in her first mattiage to M Cooper.

Eat Pray Love: Found the book interesting and enjoyable to a point. Throughout the book, I believe her banterings on spirituality and time spent in India were overbearing . I do applaud her for her knowledge of the country/culture/temple’s practices and meditations. In the beginning, i wanted to label her as selfish for not working through her marriage and for not compromising her career and family goals. However, I decided to applaud her for abiding by her values and goals and search for truism and love. Finally, I was relieved when she visited Bali and began to socialize and find a relationship and love.

By: suckaMC

suckaMC — Wed, 15 Dec 2010 22:11:56 +0000

Elizabeth Gilbert is not trying to “promote” something, she is sharing her story. If a person reads it and is able to relate then there were obviously issues prior to the reading of eat, pray, love.

It’s not selfish to want to be happy… I would prefer my significant other to leave me if I were not making them happy. One, so I could find someone that I could make truly happy and two, so that I would have the chance to be truly happy as well. Sometimes, regardless of how much you love a person, they may not be the best fit. It is incredibly difficult and heart-breaking to realize that and it is incredibly courageous to follow your heart and do what you know is best.

Send love and light everytime that you think of your former love and then drop it.

By: sam

sam — Fri, 03 Dec 2010 20:25:52 +0000

Tell me about it. My wife read it three times. She said either I or she moves out. I said you. She packed and went left. I'm here with our two kids. What kind of person promotes this? I'll buy her the next book "committed"?

By: Elizabeth

Elizabeth — Mon, 29 Nov 2010 07:39:57 +0000

jetlink225 I'm so sorry for what happened to your marriage. Noone here has a right to judge why your wife did what she did. I just wanted to express my saddness for what you've went through in losing your marriage. I too know what that is like, & I hope that in time you will have faith to take a chance on love again, & have the blessed life you were intended to have.

By: SMC

SMC — Tue, 23 Nov 2010 20:48:30 +0000

Feeling empowered. What a load of crap you just wrote Lbeezy. Marriage is work, and the Eat Pray Love and yoga live in the now nonsense is exactly what this society has become. Look out for number one, feel good about yourself, and the hell with whatever consequences come of it & who you hurt. Jetlink225 has my sympathy.

By: Cynthia

Cynthia — Thu, 28 Oct 2010 21:18:55 +0000

Great post! Really good insight. It’s always difficult to discuss finances and share money in relationships. Thanks for your advice. I recently stumbled upon this blog like I stumbled upon yours. I think they offer some good points and laughter about the topic: http://burisonthecouch.wordpress.com/2010/09/22/d... Thanks for the post! I’d like to see more like it.

By: Lbeezy

Lbeezy — Wed, 27 Oct 2010 13:14:44 +0000

Your wife left you because she was probably feeling empowered to make a decision she had long since been trying to make. "Perfectly good" does not a happy marriage make.

By: jetlink225

jetlink225 — Sat, 04 Sep 2010 22:07:00 +0000

my marriage is now ruined because of this book and this lady twisting women’s minds and making them believe this stuff. you don’t have to settle for something that doesn’t make you happy and live in a trapped, suburbia type life. But going to the other extreme and running from all of your problems and leaving your perfectly good marriage is stupid. my wife broke up with me the day after reading this trash. we were supposed to join the Peace Corps together. but us doing things together wouldn’t follow Elizabeth’s pile of garbage, now would it?

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