Can I Afford to Read Fashion & Style Blogs?

Chatting with Revanche of A Gai Shan Life one evening, I blurted out:

I don’t think I can afford reading style blogs anymore.

Style blogger Susie Lau 001 300x180 Can I Afford to Read Fashion & Style Blogs?Because, you see, I love style blogs – I appreciate the helpful information on how to put together a professional wardrobe, where to find a good tailor, what type of shoes goes best with what type of skirt, and how to mix and match different patterns. The sheer entertainment value of style blogs is also nothing to sneeze at: looking through a blogger’s photo spreads reminds me of a veritable ever-updated fashion magazine (and instead of paying $4 for a magazine at the newsstand, blogs are free!)

But I’ve realized reading style blogs has left my financial immunity hopelessly compromised against the shopping bug. It’s hard not to want to buy more clothes when I see those beautiful, impeccably put together outfits and the wonderfully evocative way many of these bloggers write about fashion and lifestyle.

I’ve purchased so many things in the last couple of months… if I don’t stop soon, I’m going to burn a hole through my wallet.  Now that I’ve warned you, click on the links (of some of my favorite style blogs) above at your own risk!

Does reading style blogs make you want to buy more clothes?

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Fitness Boot Camp Journal: Days 4-5

Day 4 (11/23)

Today was a kickboxing cardio class. Lots of punches, kicks, lateral runs, sprints, and jumping jacks. Then crunches. Remember how I said Day 3 was the hardest workout I’ve ever had? Well, Day 4 is a very close second. Lots of muscles are sore, including many that I have never known existed.

Day 5 (11/24)

More strength, resistance, and balance training with tubing, balance discs, and fitness balls. Have you ever heard of the bridge exercise on the fitness ball with a heel dig? I haven’t. Until Day 3. This exercise works your glutes and forces all the little muscles in your abs and back to kick in action. Then today, we did it again. And maybe I imagined it but I could’ve sworn that I was stronger than Day 3. icon wink Fitness Boot Camp Journal: Days 4 5 For a lot of the exercises, I had to stop briefly to just let myself rest a little or grab a sip of water. After the workout, my thoughts were: 1. every muscle in my body is sore. 2. I have really, really weak arms.

**Day 4 was also my first weighing / measurement. Every six weeks, the trainers will weigh participants and measure their waist and hips, and body fat percentage using body fat calipers. These are small clothpin-like devices that measure skinfolds to calculate how much subcutaneous fat (fat under the skin) a person has.

My initial measurements are:
Weight: 103.6
Body fat as a % of weight: 29%-30%
Waist: 27
Hips: 35

As a note, I am barely 5’1 in stocking feet, and am considered small-boned.

I am not happy with these numbers, and frankly I was a little dismayed at my high body fat percentage. Depending on which body fat chart I look that, 30% body fat is either on the edge of the acceptable / optimal range or has already crossed over into the too-high range. I shouldn’t be surprised though – all those years of no exercise and eating whatever the heck I want (which usually includes fried foods, oily foods, and lots of sugar and sweets) has caught up to me.

Given my petite build and my weight history, I know somewhere in the mid-to-upper 90s is a healthy, happy, and maintainable number for me. Through the end of high school I was always a steady 96-97 lbs. And I certainly have not gotten any taller since high school!  But my primary focus won’t be on the scale. Instead, I am looking to lose fat to bring my body fat percentage down to 23%-24% and to lose 2.5-3 inches on my waist and 2 inches on my hips. If I meet those goals, the weight will come down naturally. Basically, I want to be my high school shape, but with more lean body mass and less fat.

It’s not just about vanity

A toned midsection is nice, but vanity is not the only reason I want to lose the belly (although I’d be lying if I said aesthetics doesn’t matter at all). Abdominal fat is especially dangerous because it contributes to increased risk of heart disease and diabetes, and certain types of cancers. According to a Harvard Medical School article: “Abdominal, or visceral, fat is of particular concern because it’s a key player in a variety of health problems — much more so than subcutaneous fat, the kind you can grasp with your hand. Visceral fat, on the other hand, lies out of reach, deep within the abdominal cavity, where it pads the spaces between our abdominal organs.” I need to be especially vigilant because the women in my family tend to carry excess weight around the stomach and the hip region.

Hello balanced meals, we meet again for the first time

Exercise is only one part of the equation: I DO know that my eating habits ave to change. I read somewhere that to change one’s appearance – even small changes in tone, definition, losing a few inches here and there – is 70% diet and 30% exercise. It doesn’t matter how much I work out if I just go back to unhealthy eating habits after ward.

Through my boot camp I have a nutritional plan that put my daily caloric requirement at 1,200-1,447 calories a day. I almost cried when I saw that range – it is so small!! I will definitely swing towards the higher end of that range. And, as I hate the feeling of hunger (or even just a nibble of hunger), I will have to be very smart with my food choices and get high density foods that is filling but healthy. I might even get an iPhone app to make sure I am meeting all of my nutritional and caloric requirements through 5 small meals a day.

Slowly, I am coming around to the concept that eating healthy is something I have to do permanently. Every day. For life. As someone who have been able to eat just about anything she wants, as much as she wants, with little “visible” consequences until a few years ago, that realization was a little depressing. I know, I know, the world’s smallest violin is playing for me right now.

The bottom line

In six weeks it will be the start of 2011. In previous years, I would greet January by making an easy-to-break New Year’s Resolution to get “healthier” and “more fit” without any action to back it up. But if I keep up with my boot camp and learn to develop healthier eating habits, I will already be on my way to a healthier lifestyle by January 1, 2011. And that would be pretty great. icon biggrin Fitness Boot Camp Journal: Days 4 5

Fitness Boot Camp Journal: Days 1-3

I’ve gotten a few questions on what the differences between a gym and a fitness boot camp are, and what a fitness boot camp is like. So, I figured it’d be a good idea to keep a Fitness Boot Camp Journal – I can monitor my progress and readers who might be considering a boot camp can get an inside look.

I talked a little bit about my decision to join the boot camp, making a considerable investment in both time: 1 hour a day, 5 days a week, and money: $200 a month. Based on three days worth of experience, I’m very happy with my decision. I don’t know if I will stay with this boot camp for longer than six months, I’d like to think that at some point I can before motivated and disciplined enough to exercise on my own.

Day 1 (11/17/2010):

I signed up for my first class with a free guest pass. Most boot camps will allow you to try out a class or a week for free or reduced fee. My first session was quite literally, my first strength/cardio workout in 8 months. I didn’t quite know what to expect.  My boot camp is held indoors inside a big high school gym, although there are many outdoor boot camps in the area as well. The hour was taken up by lots of running, lunges, squats, working with free weights, and crunches (including the truly hated bicycle crunch). The group was separated into two subsections – an easier section and a more difficult one. I went into the “easy” section – it was anything but for me! I was very sore after this workout.

Day 2 (11/19/2010):

This session was full of deep stretches and yoga poses. When I got into my car afterward, I almost felt a rush of endorphins. Even though my body was still sore from two days ago, and the stretches were difficult, I just felt so good – and ready for a nap!

Day 3 (11/22/2010):

What better way to start off a Monday than circuit training to work on balance and strength? This workout was probably the most difficult workout I’ve had in my life. It once again reminded me that I am sadly lacking in upper body strength. The workout comprised mainly of 4 circuits with 4 segments each: a series of lunges and squats on a balance disc, jumping jackets / lateral run, bicep and tricep curls with tubing, and ab workouts on an exercise ball. Then top that all off with a sprint (which I walked, most of the way). Then just when I thought the workout was over, we went on the mat for several sets of leg lifts in plank position. It took all of my energy to barely hold the plank – hopefully after a few weeks I can work up to the lifts.

What’s next

Tomorrow, I will go for my fitness appointment to take my “Before” measurements. Everyone is measured at the beginning of the program so they can track their process through the weeks and months ahead. Most boot camps will have you turn in a fitness / goals survey so the instructors will have an idea of what you’d like to accomplish and history of past injuries, etc. Mine talked about my goals to improve tone, strength, stamina, and trim a few inches here and there. I have a shift dress that I had made when I was a freshmen in college – it’s now uncomfortably snug, and I’d love to be able to slip into it again. So, I see my goals as a good balance of 60% health and 40% vanity. icon wink Fitness Boot Camp Journal: Days 1 3

As you will see from just the first three days, each day had a different type of workout. My boot camp (as with most boot camps) rotates workouts so that you can exercise 5 days a week for 5 months and you wouldn’t encounter the same workout twice. This is perfect for me because I can find new exercises to hate (I kid, I kid!) every day. Seriously, though, this diversity in workout content is one of the reasons why I joined: I get bored very easily when it comes to exercise and whatever can keep my interest is a winner in my book.

Fitness: Knowledge vs. Action, and a new $200/month expense

I have signed up for a fitness boot camp near my apartment. It costs $200 for a monthly membership, which is the highest fixed expense I would have other than rent. I am still ambivalent about if I want to spend so much money, and obviously I can get in shape by myself, or get an exercise DVD, or even join a gym, a very nice gym, for a fraction of the cost.

$200 per month is significant chunk of my budget, but I think I need to spend this money. First, some background…

The Longest-Running New Year’s Resolution

Getting physically fit, lose weight, or develop a more healthy diet are probably the most common New Year’s Resolutions. And for the past, oh, 12 years, one of my New Year’s Resolutions was to get healthier, get more exercise, become more toned, eat more veggies, etc. But the fact that I am talking about those things tells you how well the past 10 resolutions worked out (not very well).

The Big “It’s Not Going to Get Better” Realization

From the outside, I don’t look unhealthy. I have coasted along life on a small frame, fast metabolism, and general good health. But this is going to catching up to me. Last weekend, CB and I climbed up six flights of stairs. Now granted, these were very high stairs, but I was winded by the third flight. Winded. After we got to the top I had to take several minutes to catch my breath. It was clearly the most exercise than I have given my heart and muscles for a long time.

At that moment, I realized – I am in my mid-20s, and I am already winded by a few flights of stairs. This is not going to get better. A magic wand won’t appear when I’m 30 to make me fitter and stronger and trimmer. Not if if I don’t take action, right now. After reading about Single Ma’s posts about how she has developed better eating and exercise habits (and lost 60 pounds in the progress), I was doubly inspired to make a change in my life.

In personal finance we talk a lot about how much easier it is to start early – with retirement saving, learning to live on a budget, figuring how to develop a healthy relationship with money. It’s the same thing with health and exercise. My lack of action doesn’t have so much to do with knowledge or ignorance of that knowledge. I know this. I know that eating more broccoli is good for me. I know that I need 30 minutes to an hour of exercise a day. Like SS4BC has written in a recent post, knowing the consequences of our action doesn’t necessarily mean we will take action.

I know that later on in life I will have problems with bone density, slower metabolism, knee problems, and muscle loss because I did not eat and exercise as I should have. I know that when that time comes, I will think, why didn’t I start when I was younger? I know all this. So WHY am I not living it right now? This discrepancy between knowledge and action is obviously something I need to address.

The $200/month Fitness Boot Camp

When 2011 comes, I don’t want to make another useless New Year’s Resolution about getting in shape. So I am starting my actionable plan, right now. That’s where this boot camp comes in. For $200, I can attend an hour of class (rotating between cardio, strength training, pilates, yoga, etc.) every weekday morning. I’ve realized that what I need is instruction, routine and accountability. At this point in the game, I don’t have the discipline to provide that for myself.

I have already attended two classes at the boot camp (getting up at 5 in the morning to do so). It’s hard to get started exercising, but it felt good afterward. I am doing something good for myself, first thing in the morning. In my financial life, I always try to pay myself first, so why shouldn’t I do it in my real life as well?

A new $200 expense means I will have to move things around in my budget. No more buying $300 dresses! But I’ve decided that if this boot camp will keep me motivated and focused and set me on the road to a healthier lifestyle, the money will be absolutely worth it.

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The Dress

A few of you have asked me about the $300 Lela Rose dress that I had wondered if I should buy. Given that you all humored me with your thoughts, it’s only appropriate to confess that yes, I paid $300 for a dress that I have never seen in person and could not return. And I received the package today.

Why I am glad I bought the dress

This little black dress is very well-constructed (as I hope that something that retails over four figures should be). The fabric has a slight sheen and felt very substantial, and the cut is quite flattering. The portrait collar is certainly dramatic, and is easily “stood up” or “flattened” depending on the style you’d like.

Luckily, I ordered the right size – one size up would have definitely been too big. In any case, the fit is just right – this dress has a fairly small waist so it would not be very forgiving after a big Thanksgiving meal. It’s as close to a perfect fit as possible, except the skirt is about an inch too long. Unless I wanted to take the hems up slightly, I wouldn’t need to have it tailored.

And lastly, it’s a gorgeous, luxurious dress. So… let’s just say this is my early Christmas present.

And why I would not do it again…

Even though I love this dress, I don’t think I would do it again, at least not for a long while. For one, it is expensive!  Second, so many things could have gone wrong. If the dress had just been cut even 1/2 inch smaller in the waist it would not work. The neckline scoops a little lower than I had expected, and while I am fine with this, there were other features that could have been slightly off that I wouldn’t have liked.

So the moral of the story? It’s a gamble buying an expensive dress on final sale. That, and an online shopper and her money is soon parted.

Lending to Family: The Easiest $20,000 Decision

home loan Lending to Family: The Easiest $20,000 DecisionA while back I wrote about the question of lending to friends and family, now this is a process I am actually going through – I will be giving my mom a $20,000 short-term loan. From what I’ve read, it seems like most intrafamily loans are fraught with pitfalls, and the decision to lend is a long and complicated one.

But for me, this decision couldn’t be simpler. If I want to be cheeky, I’d say it’s a no-brainer, like saving in Roth IRA and having an emergency fund.

My mom is in the process of purchasing another single family home as a rental property, and she wanted to make an all-cash offer to speed up the process and increase the chances of winning the bid. She has most of the money, but is missing around $20,000.

So, she asked me if I can provide bridge financing for her until early Spring (when another source of cash should appear). Of course I said yes. I am really happy to be able to do this: (1) This money is just sitting in my emergency cash / short-term goals fund, so I can afford to lend it. (2) My mother is smart with money and she has helped me (basically all through my life). Also, her integrity is beyond reproach. If she borrows, she will repay – I think this is hard-coded into her DNA.

This is another reason why it’s so great to have money in the bank: so when the possibility comes up for you to help someone that you really want to help, you can say yes.

Have you ever loaned money to family before? Was it a difficult decision? What made you say yes (or no?)?

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Chocolate Will Be As Expensive as Caviar in 20 Years

Remember my chocolate budget? Well, I better start saving much more money because in 20 years, chocolate is going to skyrocket in cost. According to a chilling article by Gizmodo, the world is running out of chocolate!

At the rate we’re going, chocolate is going to be a rare—and extremely pricey—commodity within the next twenty years.

What will the shortage mean? $11 Snickers bars, sooner than you think. Pretzels given out for Halloween. Or more candy made from carob, a poor substitute for the sweet and sticky real deal. And a tectonic shift in how we view our mochas, according the Nature Conservation Research Council’s John Mason:

“In 20 years chocolate will be like caviar. It will become so rare and so expensive that the average Joe just won’t be able to afford it.”

Imagine all the things that would be affected by this shortage: hot chocolates, s’mores, mochas, Spanish mole dishes, Hershey’s Kisses, chocolate croissants, brownies, chocolate cupcakes….

I wish I had something more cogent to say about this shortage, something about market pricing or consumer behavior. But all I can say is…

NOOOO!

What Defines a Minimalist?

I was featured as a “Real Life Minimalist” on Francine’s blog, Miss Minimalist.

The post got me thinking – what defines a minimalist? When I looked on Webster’s Dictionary, here’s what it said about “minimalist”

a style or technique (as in music, literature, or design) that is characterized by extreme spareness and simplicity

According to that definition, I certainly would not qualify as a minimalist. I own much more than 100 items, I have a permanent residence, I enjoy my creature comforts. I am not sure if I am a minimalist, but I am not pursuing the minimalism lifestyle with the zeal and enthusiasm with some other bloggers. Likewise, as a personal finance blogger, I am not pursuing frugality just for frugality’s sake.

Instead, what I am after is a healthy relationship with stuff.  In my Real Life Minimalist story, this is what I said:

I realized that what I want isn’t an arbitrarily small number of belongings. Instead, I want each and every piece of my possessions to be useful and appreciated. I don’t want the mindless accumulation of stuff just for stuff’s sake.

Generation Earn Q&A and Book Winners

Kimberly Palmer 300x200 Generation Earn Q&A and Book WinnersKimberly Palmer answers your questions on her new personal finance book for today’s twentysomethings, Generation Earn. Plus, the winners of the book giveaway are announced at the end of this post.

1. Is your book mainly descriptive or prescriptive? Did you do interviews with people of this generation and does this book detail their strategies, or are these theoretical suggestions for strategies we should employ? If the latter, how many have you tried out yourself?

The book is based on my interviews with people in their 20s, 30s, and 40s who, for the most part, figured out how to successfully take control of their financial lives so they feel financially secure, can support their families, and even give back ways that align with their values and goals.  I picked most of the people profiled because they were doing something a little different, or inspiring, and I wanted to get to know them better. And yes, I have tried out a lot of the ideas myself!

2. What is the most common obstacle is for getting out of debt?

Feeling completely overwhelmed. Having debt, especially larger quantities of it, can be paralyzing. Taking small steps is usually the best way to start, but of course, it’s easier said than done.  In my chapter on debt, I profile Veronica, who recently finished grad school. She has over $100,000 in student loans and had a lot of trouble finding a job after she got her degree.  But now, after getting hired at a nonprofit and a lot of hard work, she’s saving 10 percent of her salary and slowly paying off the debt.

3. How did you first become interested in personal finance?

After getting hired at US News & World Report to be a business reporter, I found myself more and more drawn to the personal side of money. I discovered I loved talking to people about their decisions, goals, and motivators. It was more interesting to me than looking at companies’ balance sheets and annual reports!

4. How do you choose between renting and owning. When do you know that you’re ready?

Such a tough question because it depends on so many factors, including where you live, your lifestyle, and your financial goals. Personally, I didn’t feel ready until I had enough money saved to make a 20 percent down payment and buy a house I could see myself living in for the next five to 10 years, at least. But I could also see the upsides of continuing to rent, especially given the many uncertainties in the economy.

5. How do you know when you’re “Set”? Everyone has a different number for what you need to do to build a healthy financial future, but how do you know what you will be comfortable with? I know I need to put money aside to save for retirement, but how much is “ok”? I have other things I need to save for as well – house, marriage, emergency fund, etc, and I still want to enjoy life!

For example, I have around 35% ($750) of my take home pay available for saving to different areas. Is it fine to put $325 of that to retirement, and the rest to other savings (vacation, home, emergency fund, wedding), or do I need more money going into that retirement fund? If it matters, I’m 25 and with no debt.

I think even if you had a million dollars in the bank, you might still feel like it’s not enough. There’s definitely something to be said for living in the moment and not being overly stingy in the name of savings. And that’s the tricky part, figuring out that balance for yourself. Personally, I like to go on a percentage goal for savings like the one you describe, so you’re always living below your means, which means collecting a sizable amount of savings for a rainy day.

My recommended goal is to save at least one quarter of your income, and ideally one-third. That includes money going into retirement savings accounts, too. A good goal is to put 20 percent of your income into your retirement savings account from pre-tax dollars and then save 15 percent into after-tax accounts for emergencies and goals, such as a home purchase or travel. It sounds like you are doing just that, and to be doing it at age 25 is especially impressive!

6. We know we have to save for retirement, build our nest egg, pay our debts and invest, but sometimes it feels so difficult to tackle all those things with a recently-grad paycheck. Is there a hierarchy of importance as to which of these aspects we should focus more money into? should we do it proportionally instead?

Also, If we’re planning on investing, but only on moderate amounts (im thinking on $100 monthly for the first year and then review it) which is the safer (yet at least mildly profitable) long-term choice? Should we invest in the housing market or wait a little longer?

Yes, you are right, setting up these priorities is key! I like your approach of starting with a realistic amount to invest each month instead of waiting until you feel like you have “extra” money, which of course will never happen.

Here’s how I recommend setting up the priorities, starting with what’s most important and with the estimated percentage of your spending dollars:

1.         The basics: food, housing, and transportation: 50 percent

2.         Debt payments: Less than 5 percent

3.         Savings: 25 percent

4.         Professional expenses: Less than 5 percent

5.         Household expenses: Less than 5 percent

6.         Entertainment: 5 percent

The categories don’t add up to 100 percent to leave yourself from wiggle room and so you can personalize the plan for yourself.

To answer your investing question, I would recommend sticking with something low-fee and simple, such as an S&P 500 index fund. Investing in the housing market is complicated because it usually means you’re money is locked up and hard to access if you need it. Whether or not to buy a house is a separate question (addressed above!), but don’t buy a house just for the investment return.

7. How did you growing up influence or shape your views on Personal Finance?

My parents had a huge impact on me! They set an example of always living below their means. Even though they earned just $40,000 (combined) as newlyweds, they managed to save $10,000 in one year so they could buy their first house. Of course, this was in the 1970s, so it was easier to live on $40,000, but still – they saved one-quarter of their income. And even though they bought us whatever we needed for school, they were frugal in other areas and didn’t let us waste.

8. Any advice or tips for putting aside money for large purchases (car, home, etc), without the temptation to draw money from those accounts when in a bind?

Every month, when you are preparing to transfer money from your bank account into your savings account (or investment fund), make a celebration of it, so it feels as good as splurging on some indulgent purchase. Turn it into a ritual. Then, once it’s in that savings or investing account, it’s not as easy to access, even if you’re tempted.

In addition, you should be automatically saving money through your retirement account so you’re not even aware that you had the money to begin with– that way you won’t miss it. You might even want to set up the same feature on your bank account so it automatically saves money out of your paycheck. A combination of automatic saving and celebratory saving should help you get to your goal.

9. What is your advice regarding planning for taking care of parents for Generation Earn, since many of them will have parents whose retirement plans were hit by the recent economic downturn, and may not fully recover in time for their retirement?

Great question and one reason I have a whole chapter on this topic. Taking care of parents is a huge concern for our generation. In fact, one survey found that two in five of us plan to give money to our parents at some point.  First, I recommend keeping an open mind. Even though our first reaction is often to feel resentful of these requests for help, it’s not always a bad idea, because our parents did, after all, raise us!

If you find yourself in this situation, first decide if you are able to help without putting your own financial security at risk. If the answer is yes, then consider giving a set amount instead of endless support whenever requests are made. That will help your parents (or other family member) to plan and get on top of their own budgets instead of grow dependent on you.  Also, look into non-financial ways you can help out: Could you sit down and help your parents come up with a budget, or better investment plan? Do they want help getting a part-time job in retirement? Maybe you could have more family meals together to save on food.

10. I would like to know if the author has any suggestions for 20-somethings who are feeling discouraged and jealous of their peers who are better off. I am making serious progress paying off my student loans, but then I look at my friends who own houses and make $$, and never had to deal with student loans, and it makes me really jealous. I try to focus on my own blessings, goals, and progress, but this still pops up from time to time. Thanks!

Yes! My advice is to embrace these feelings of jealousy. It sounds counter-intuitive, but some types of jealousy can be very useful to us because it helps to show us what we truly want. It sounds like what you want is financial security and maybe even luxury – and that you’re making steady progress towards getting there. Beyond that, remember that their lives are probably not as perfect as they seem. Everyone has their own internal struggles that aren’t always obvious. If they received money from their parents, then they might be beholden to them in some way. Celebrate your independence!

11. What is the difference between our generation and our parents (or previous) that made us generation consumer/debt/spoiled.

I completely reject the idea that we are “generation debt.” Yes, credit card debt and student loan debt has risen, but that’s largely because we are seeking more degrees and earning higher incomes. One of the key differences of our generation is that we have been shaped by two recessions in the last 10 years. It’s taught us to be savvier with our money and more financially conservative, which, in the long-run, will probably help us.

12. In your personal opinion (and after doing the research you did) so you think our Generation (Generation Y, or as you call it Generation Earn) will be one of the most successful generations or one of the worst in terms of saving money, being financially savvy, etc?

Maybe I’m being overly optimistic, but I think we are spearheading a new wave of financial savviness. Just look at all the websites and blogs dedicated to being smart with your money. We love talking about this stuff and educating ourselves, and that will pay-off.

And… the winners of the giveaway are Yumi, Kathleen, and Kari!

I will forward your contact information to Kim so she can arrange for your books to be shipped to you.

Thanks to everyone who have entered the contest. Also a big thanks to Kim for her answers and for providing the books to be given away.

$300 Dress: Save or Splurge?

1411611417 RLLD 11 $300 Dress: Save or Splurge?This black silk portrait collar dess by Lela Rose is $299 on Rue La La.

Pros: It’s gorgeous. I love the drama of the collar, the silk faille fabric, and the seaming and darting. My sizes are actually still available. I just got a bonus from work that will cover the cost of this dress and then some. It’s by Lela Rose, one of my favorite new designer. I would never be able to afford her clothes full-price, and now here is an opportunity for me to get her dresses at 80% off list price (the original price is $1,295).

Cons: Final sale (no returns). What if it doesn’t fit? It’s expensive… $300 plus $10 in shipping plus at least $50 in any tailoring I might have to do. It’s dry-clean only, and I would have to be extra careful not to stain or otherwise damage this dress. I can put my bonus to much better use, say… my travel fund. Besides, most clothes are marked up anyway, I shouldn’t use the excuse to buy something.

So, what says you? Should I throw budget to the wind and splurge, or would it behoove me to save?

(If you want to help me out by getting on RueLaLa.com and buying this dress so that it is sold out, that would be appreciated too).

The $10,000 Dating Budget

Love don’t cost a thing, but dating is another story.

Do you spend less money when you are in a relationship? Do you spend more money on grooming, apparel, and eating out when you are single / casually dating? These are the questions that come to mind after I read The Economics of Serial Dating: A Case Study. It’s a fascinating article about one New York City woman’s dating budget for the year. The article opens with a pithy introduction:

Meet Anna. She spend $5,468 a year on dating, before she even leaves the house.

economicsofdating The $10,000 Dating Budget

As the graphic shows, Anna’s total cost is even higher, at over $9,000 once the costs of taxi rides, professional photos, online dating memberships, clothing, shoes, dry-cleaning, personal grooming, and other costs are tallied up.

Given that my dates with my boyfriend generally revolve around In-N-Out (oh delicious burger) and that the most expensive piece of clothing I purchased with a date in mind was my $80 prom dress, I never realized how expensive dating can be. On the other hand, plenty of people date, and I can’t imagine most people spending almost $10,000 a year on this pursuit of Mr./Mrs. Right or their less attractive alternative, Mr./Mrs. Right Now. Or perhaps I have an unrealistically low budget for dating. Besides, I am sure the clients of Millionaire Matchmaker spend several hundred thousands, if not more, on their love-story-in-the-making.

Cost of Social Life vs. Cost of Dating

One thing I noticed is that most of Anna’s costs are the costs of having an active social life, not exclusively the costs of an active dating life. Going out every night and taking taxis are expensive, regardless of whether you do it with your friends or a date. The beauty products that Anna uses are also for her personal use, I’d argue.

I have spent some pretty penny on beauty treatments in the past – a $250 hair straight perm, a $80 facial, etc. But I wouldn’t attribute that to a cost I had to incur for my relationship. There are also many expenses (shoes, clothes) that Anna rolls into her “dating budget” but that are not really dating-exclusive purchases. Anna admits that she sometimes makes purchases that she may not have made without the specter of an upcoming date over her.

Still, it’s undeniable that there are very high social pressures for men and women – especially women, I might argue – to look good. Looking good doesn’t come without effort, or, most of the time, money.

So I am curious – How much do you spend on dating a year? Please tell us your demographic if possible (age range, location, gender).

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Electricity Usage – what’s normal?

I pay my electric bill once every two months, and for the past two months the bills have been around $100, or $50 per month. Does that sound right?

I have never been in charge of paying for electricity (in the past my roommate would take care of it and I’d write a check to cover whatever my half is), so I haven’t thought much about electric costs. A $100 bills means that CB and I would be paying around $25 per month, which sounds very reasonable to me.

According to my statement, we used 343 kWh (kilowatt-hours) for the past two months – we live in a one-bedroom apartment and we rarely use the air-conditioning, but on occasion we have forgotten to turn of all the lights at night.

Does 343 kilowatt hours per 2 months sound like a reasonable amount of electricity to be using? I’m just curious for your take.

Spending on Hobbies: It’s good for your health

My new post on HomeSpace (a site within the LendingTree family) is up! Hobbies help you connect with friends, decrease stress, and are generally fun. So spend merrily (within reason) – you are doing something good for yourself.

Even if you can’t find a way to get your favorite past times to pay for themselves, they are worth pursuing – like vegetables and sleep, hobbies can be good for your health. A 2009 National Institute of Health report concludes that “Enjoyable leisure activities, taken in the aggregate, are associated with psychosocial and physical measures relevant for health and well-being.”

So please go and check it out! A big thanks to Dazed in Los Angeles and Eric of Narrow Bridge for helping me out with it.