In an ideal world, I doubt many people would move 3,000 miles away from their husband or wife a month after saying their wedding vows. But in the real world, that’s the situation CB and I are faced with, a move can save us some serious cash. That makes me wonder: would you enter into a long-distance relationship with your significant other because of financial reasons? Minimizing loans, attending a better school, securing a job, or winning a bigger promotion are all admirable goals, but what if they can only happen if you commit to living apart for hundreds or thousands of miles?
Long distance relationships and marriages and becoming more common, to the point that the US Department of State has coined a new term, “geographic singles.” Another term is “commuter marriage” or “weekend marriage,” representing folks who work too far apart to see each other during the week. During tough economic times, many couples are willing to live apart for a paycheck. Then there are the super LDRers who engage in transcontinental relationships and arrange for romantic weekends in Europe when one partner lives in the U.S. and another lives in Asia.
CB and I have always knew that a long-distance marriage would be in our future, for at least a few years. But we are now considering going from same-coast long distance (2 hour direct flight) to opposite-coast long distance (6 hour flight + layover = 8+ hours of travel). This is a move that could save us up to $50,000 in students loans. Is NOT having to repay $50,000 in loans (which would cost us $60,000 of net income once taxes and interest are factored in) worth putting 3,000 miles between the two of us for a year?