You guys warned me, but I didn’t listen… long distance relationships are expensive! And most of those expenses fall into the form of cross-country airfare. When CB and I first decided to do this let’s-start-our-marriage-on-opposite-coasts deal, I thought we’d be fine seeing each other every couple of months. Now that we’ve been apart for a while, I’ve realized that the every-two-month schedule is one of Last Resort. We need to figure out a way to visit at least every 6 weeks, ideally every month.
After crunching numbers and checking calendars, we’ve worked it out so that we will see each other every month from September to December. Of course, all these cross-country flights don’t come cheap: just yesterday I plucked down nearly $600 for a Thanksgiving ticket. This fall, at an average of $500/flight, those four visits will cost us $2,000. Even though it hurts to spend the money (and CB is probably even more reluctant to spend than I am), I think this is the right move. It’s hard enough to be in a long distance relationship without having those little visits to look forward to.
On the other hand, even though I miss CB quite a bit, it is nice having time to just do whatever I need to get done. Many of my classmates have their spouses/families here with them, and I see how difficult it is for them to balance school, job search, and family. I envy them (because their loved ones are close), but I feel lucky that I don’t necessarily need to have “balance” right now. I can focus on whatever I need to get done. Then when CB and I visit, we can devote our time to each other. So, those plane tickets as “price of admission” to a successful long distance marriage. And high as it might be, it’s a price I’m more than happy to pay.