Comments for Well-Heeled, with a mission http://www.wellheeledblog.com Personal finance nerd, shoe aficionada, food lover, and tango dancer - on a mission to save and invest for tomorrow but live life to the fullest today. Tue, 01 Dec 2009 09:42:58 -0600 http://wordpress.org/?v=2.8.6 hourly 1 Comment on The Birthday-Christmas Combined Gift Dilemma by WellHeeled http://www.wellheeledblog.com/2009/11/30/birthday-christmas-combined-gift/comment-page-1/#comment-9152 WellHeeled Tue, 01 Dec 2009 09:42:58 +0000 http://www.wellheeledblog.com/?p=3090#comment-9152 That is super thoughtful of you. I'm sure he appreciates it. That is super thoughtful of you. I'm sure he appreciates it.

]]> Comment on The Birthday-Christmas Combined Gift Dilemma by Abigail http://www.wellheeledblog.com/2009/11/30/birthday-christmas-combined-gift/comment-page-1/#comment-9147 Abigail Tue, 01 Dec 2009 08:51:16 +0000 http://www.wellheeledblog.com/?p=3090#comment-9147 Tim's birthday is 6 days before Christmas. And he was completely fed up with getting birthday/Christmas presents. When he gets something big, he's okay with combination gifts -- like our first Christmas together, when his parents and I went in on an Xbox 360 for him. That was all they got him, and I got him a few small items. This year, I had gotten him a separate birthday gift, but he's now trying to quit smoking. So my birthday gift to him was letting him have his big Christmas gift (a PSP) early. That way, he has something to keep his hands busy. That said, his even bigger gripe was that he could never really celebrate his birthday well, because everyone was always going out of town for the holidays. Or were busy with family-related stuff. So each year, I try to make a fuss on his actual birthday. We go out and enjoy some birthday freebies and get him a slice from the Cheesecake Factory. It means the world to him (although we still have problems rallying people that close to the holidays), and in relationships it's about your partner's needs as much as your own. I'm glad CB is smart enough to realize that, too! Tim's birthday is 6 days before Christmas. And he was completely fed up with getting birthday/Christmas presents. When he gets something big, he's okay with combination gifts — like our first Christmas together, when his parents and I went in on an Xbox 360 for him. That was all they got him, and I got him a few small items. This year, I had gotten him a separate birthday gift, but he's now trying to quit smoking. So my birthday gift to him was letting him have his big Christmas gift (a PSP) early. That way, he has something to keep his hands busy.

That said, his even bigger gripe was that he could never really celebrate his birthday well, because everyone was always going out of town for the holidays. Or were busy with family-related stuff. So each year, I try to make a fuss on his actual birthday. We go out and enjoy some birthday freebies and get him a slice from the Cheesecake Factory. It means the world to him (although we still have problems rallying people that close to the holidays), and in relationships it's about your partner's needs as much as your own. I'm glad CB is smart enough to realize that, too!

]]> Comment on The Birthday-Christmas Combined Gift Dilemma by Amy http://www.wellheeledblog.com/2009/11/30/birthday-christmas-combined-gift/comment-page-1/#comment-9146 Amy Tue, 01 Dec 2009 08:48:16 +0000 http://www.wellheeledblog.com/?p=3090#comment-9146 My husband's birthday is within a month of Christmas and I make sure he has separate gifts, although after Christmas, there's generally not much left that he wants or needs. His birthday present generally ends up being "doing" something such as a weekend or night away, a really nice meal and a movie, that sort of thing. My husband's birthday is within a month of Christmas and I make sure he has separate gifts, although after Christmas, there's generally not much left that he wants or needs. His birthday present generally ends up being "doing" something such as a weekend or night away, a really nice meal and a movie, that sort of thing.

]]> Comment on The Birthday-Christmas Combined Gift Dilemma by WellHeeled http://www.wellheeledblog.com/2009/11/30/birthday-christmas-combined-gift/comment-page-1/#comment-9139 WellHeeled Tue, 01 Dec 2009 07:30:29 +0000 http://www.wellheeledblog.com/?p=3090#comment-9139 You tell 'em! LOL. You tell 'em! LOL.

]]> Comment on Can You Live On An All-Cash System? by Kim http://www.wellheeledblog.com/2009/11/29/live-all-cash-system-give-up-credit-card/comment-page-1/#comment-9134 Kim Tue, 01 Dec 2009 06:50:10 +0000 http://www.wellheeledblog.com/?p=3300#comment-9134 I don't have an all CASH system, but I do have a no-credit card system. I use my debit card for most purchases (except the occasional lunch out or trip to the farmers market) because I like being able to keep track of purchases, and it's just easier...much in the same ways that a credit card is easier. I don't earn any reward points, and I'd like to, but so far, the benefits of not having a credit card (no risk of accumulating debt, no scary fees, etc) outweigh the good of having one (for me, rewards points, since I wouldn't use it to buy things I couldn't pay for all at once). I am intimidated by the thought of getting a credit card, and my no-card system works for me! I don't have an all CASH system, but I do have a no-credit card system. I use my debit card for most purchases (except the occasional lunch out or trip to the farmers market) because I like being able to keep track of purchases, and it's just easier…much in the same ways that a credit card is easier. I don't earn any reward points, and I'd like to, but so far, the benefits of not having a credit card (no risk of accumulating debt, no scary fees, etc) outweigh the good of having one (for me, rewards points, since I wouldn't use it to buy things I couldn't pay for all at once).

I am intimidated by the thought of getting a credit card, and my no-card system works for me!

]]> Comment on The Birthday-Christmas Combined Gift Dilemma by Amanda http://www.wellheeledblog.com/2009/11/30/birthday-christmas-combined-gift/comment-page-1/#comment-9154 Amanda Tue, 01 Dec 2009 04:05:04 +0000 http://www.wellheeledblog.com/?p=3090#comment-9154 My birthday is January 1st. My mom always made an extra special effort to have all the Christmas stuff away by the time my birthday came, so it could be its own special day. I really do expect 2 separate gifts, if I expect a gift at all (which is really only from my immediate family). I like what a previous commenter said about conveniently forgetting THEIR birthday ;) If it's a money thing, I totally understand since they're only a week apart. But at least get me a BIRTHDAY card, not a CHRISTMAS card! My birthday is January 1st. My mom always made an extra special effort to have all the Christmas stuff away by the time my birthday came, so it could be its own special day. I really do expect 2 separate gifts, if I expect a gift at all (which is really only from my immediate family). I like what a previous commenter said about conveniently forgetting THEIR birthday ;) If it's a money thing, I totally understand since they're only a week apart. But at least get me a BIRTHDAY card, not a CHRISTMAS card!

]]> Comment on The Birthday-Christmas Combined Gift Dilemma by jjj http://www.wellheeledblog.com/2009/11/30/birthday-christmas-combined-gift/comment-page-1/#comment-9153 jjj Tue, 01 Dec 2009 03:55:49 +0000 http://www.wellheeledblog.com/?p=3090#comment-9153 My mom's birthday is 1 week before Christmas and we have been forbidden from giving her combined gifts. They don't have to be big, just separate. On the other hand, my sister is giving me a combined birthday/Christmas present and my birthday is in July. I don't mind since she's spending a ton of time making it and it probably cost her two presents worth of money (we don't usually spend much on each other). My mom's birthday is 1 week before Christmas and we have been forbidden from giving her combined gifts. They don't have to be big, just separate.

On the other hand, my sister is giving me a combined birthday/Christmas present and my birthday is in July. I don't mind since she's spending a ton of time making it and it probably cost her two presents worth of money (we don't usually spend much on each other).

]]> Comment on 2009 Goals Update: The Weird Thing Is by Kim http://www.wellheeledblog.com/2009/11/28/2009-goals-update-weird/comment-page-1/#comment-9151 Kim Tue, 01 Dec 2009 03:37:07 +0000 http://www.wellheeledblog.com/?p=3183#comment-9151 Congratulations! I like that you made concrete goals and accomplished them! That must be very satisfying! I think I will take that approach to 2010 :-) Fingers crossed on the job! Congratulations! I like that you made concrete goals and accomplished them! That must be very satisfying! I think I will take that approach to 2010 :-)

Fingers crossed on the job!

]]> Comment on The Birthday-Christmas Combined Gift Dilemma by Kim http://www.wellheeledblog.com/2009/11/30/birthday-christmas-combined-gift/comment-page-1/#comment-9150 Kim Tue, 01 Dec 2009 03:30:44 +0000 http://www.wellheeledblog.com/?p=3090#comment-9150 My mom's birthday always falls during or near Chanukkah -- every year she says she doesn't want ANYTHING, but we all know that she'll be sad if she doesn't get at least a little something for both her birthday and Chanukkah... My mom's birthday always falls during or near Chanukkah — every year she says she doesn't want ANYTHING, but we all know that she'll be sad if she doesn't get at least a little something for both her birthday and Chanukkah…

]]> Comment on The Birthday-Christmas Combined Gift Dilemma by Carrie http://www.wellheeledblog.com/2009/11/30/birthday-christmas-combined-gift/comment-page-1/#comment-9148 Carrie Tue, 01 Dec 2009 02:58:48 +0000 http://www.wellheeledblog.com/?p=3090#comment-9148 one of my best friends' birthday is on christmas. i make a special effort to get him two distinct gifts one of my best friends' birthday is on christmas. i make a special effort to get him two distinct gifts

]]> Comment on The Birthday-Christmas Combined Gift Dilemma by Stephanie http://www.wellheeledblog.com/2009/11/30/birthday-christmas-combined-gift/comment-page-1/#comment-9145 Stephanie Tue, 01 Dec 2009 02:43:19 +0000 http://www.wellheeledblog.com/?p=3090#comment-9145 My birthday's Dec 14th and I've been very lucky in that my family always made sure there were separate presents mostly because my mom (whose birthday is the 13th) got combined presents when she was growing up. I think I'd hate getting combined and I agree with Single Ma above-my birthday and Christmas are separate just as my friends' birthdays and Christmas are separate and they ought to remember that! My birthday's Dec 14th and I've been very lucky in that my family always made sure there were separate presents mostly because my mom (whose birthday is the 13th) got combined presents when she was growing up. I think I'd hate getting combined and I agree with Single Ma above-my birthday and Christmas are separate just as my friends' birthdays and Christmas are separate and they ought to remember that!

]]> Comment on The Birthday-Christmas Combined Gift Dilemma by The Asian Pear http://www.wellheeledblog.com/2009/11/30/birthday-christmas-combined-gift/comment-page-1/#comment-9143 The Asian Pear Tue, 01 Dec 2009 02:23:47 +0000 http://www.wellheeledblog.com/?p=3090#comment-9143 My birthday doesn't fall around Christmas but my boyfriend does. I know to him it's not important. But I try to make sure he has separate gifts so that he knows that I appreciate him and I'll always make an effort. My birthday doesn't fall around Christmas but my boyfriend does. I know to him it's not important. But I try to make sure he has separate gifts so that he knows that I appreciate him and I'll always make an effort.

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