A Spender Trapped In a Saver’s Body

A Spender vs. Saver

Whenever articles come out that ask: Are you a natural-born Saver or Spender? I always think about which category I’d fall into.

On the surface, I’d probably be classified as a natural saver – I save for retirement, long-term goals, big trips, etc., and I don’t live beyond my means. And yet, I think I am a spender trapped inside a saver’s body – because I really, truly, hate the feeling of not being able to spend.

If you are like me, you wouldn’t be very good at depriving yourself / enforcing no-spend rules. For example, I thought about going to Paris one night, and bam, I am making plans for a $4,000 trip. I see a beautiful $300 dress, and I click “Buy” after just a few hours (the travesty is that I still have not worn that dress. Six months later. But I will in October for a wedding). I go through Starbucks like they are going out of style, and at $4 per latte it would be a very good thing for my wallet if they DO go out of style. I eat out much too much.I tried living without a budget and while that went OK for a while, I soon realized that, nope, I DO need an budget adult allowance. I get bitten by the shopping bug.

Can you become a saver if you are naturally inclined to spend?

I think so. Just like you can still get in shape if you hate exercise or you can still eat healthily even if you love sweets. It’s all about playing little tricks on yourself to help you along. How I’ve done that is to put away money before it gets into my hands. I do this with my 401K contributions – every month over $2,000 disappears before I get my paycheck. That way, my spending is constrained by the money that I actually have. I also try to minimize my BIG expenses (rent, car, etc.) so I don’t have to go through daily acts of deprivation (no Starbucks, no eating out).

Automatic savings, paying myself first, and forgetting about the money I have so I always feel less well-off than my bank ledger – these are the ways I try to keep my inner spender at bay!

Are you spender or a saver? Or are you, like me, a spender trapped in a saver’s body? Any savers trapped in a spender’s body here? icon smile A Spender Trapped In a Savers Body

Have I turned into THAT Friend?

coffee Have I turned into THAT Friend?I put 95% of my non-rent payments on my credit card (and most of the time, I pay my bill on time and in full every month). Yes, that means I am the annoying person who uses a card to buy a $0.59 chocolate at the local bookstore. Today I went to get brunch with a couple of friends, though, and I realized why it’s always helpful to have cash on hand.

My friend paid for our brunch at the restaurant, and I said I would pick up the tab when we go get coffee at the downstairs coffee shop. When we got to the register though, of course there was a giant sign that said CASH ONLY. I was a little embarrassed but my friend very nicely took care of that as well, and told me not to worry about it.

I had a great time, but I just hope they don’t think I’m THAT friend who uses the “no cash” excuse to get free food. ‘Cause nobody likes THAT friend. -_-

I am going to start carrying a little bit of cash now. Especially when we go out to dinner next time.

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Food Budget Inflation Rampant: Time to Wave the White Flag or Double Down and Try Harder?

In the Me vs. Food Spending competition, the statistics are currently thus: Food Spending 10, Me -3

Fighting a never-ending battle with food costs

In November 2010, I spent $336 on Food & Dining ($185 groceries / $151 restaurants). In December 2010, I spent $297 ($78 groceries / $219 restaurants). In January 2011, I spent $279 ($20 groceries / $259 on restaurants). Granted, some of these splits might be biased because CB tends to pick up groceries on his way from work, and I will often pick up the check at restaurants to make up for the difference.

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Still. For someone who had a ~$200 food budget just a few years ago and who had expected cohabitation to decrease food costs (because we can split groceries! and magically bond over cooking like characters in romantic comedies! – I was obviously not in my right mind), these numbers are a little hard to accept.

The truth is, I don’t like to cook after I come home from work. I find cooking time-consuming and thankless. *CB thanks me when I cook, as I do when he cooks, but on the whole I think this whole daily-grind-cooking (as opposed to special-occasion-cooking, such as a dinner party or a lovely brunch), is one of the most thankless jobs out there. Mom, I don’t know how you did it.

I’d rather pick up extra freelance assignments, or work longer hours and try to get a bigger bonus – in other words, I’d rather make more money to afford buying good food than try to scrimp and budget in that regard. But making more money takes time, while resisting the 6th restaurant visit in one week can be implemented immediately.

Resign to the higher food budget? Or make an extra effort to cook more?

On the one hand, is $300/month food budget for one person really that unreasonable? On the other hand, I can easily cut $50 or $100 out of the budget if I just cooked 3-4 more nights a month. Is cooking 3-4 more nights a month really that difficult? I know CB is also finding that our profligate dining out habits to be a drain on his finances. Given that neither of us lack things to save for, isn’t it worth more effort to cook?

I don’t know the answer to this. But I do know that I am hungry.

Life Without a Budget: 4 Questions to Ask

Life without a budget might sound like a financial disaster, but it’s working out okay for me.  Well, the “without a budget” part isn’t strictly true – I don’t spend more than I make, and I have make sure my fixed costs (rent, car, internet) are in line with what I can afford to pay. Still, I don’t follow a strict budget nor do I keep track of where every penny goes.  If someone ask me how much I have spent on eating out last month, she would have received “too much” and then a blank stare as her answer.

Do you think you can live a life without a budget?  The way I see it, this type of more hands-off financial management works for people who can answer affirmatively to 4 questions.

1. Do you pay yourself first using automatic savings?

If you put 15% of your money into 401K and Roth IRA every month, that money won’t be around for you to spend it. Same thing with automatic savings to emergency fund or to long-term objectives. It’s the oldest (and most beautiful!) trick in the book to prevent self-sabotage of saving goals.

2. Are you debt-free or have manageable debt?

People who are focused on paying down large amount of debt in a short period of time will achieve success with Dave Ramsey’s gazelle intensity. If you are intent on sending every penny to credit card companies or mortgage bankers, you need a budget to know where every penny is going.

3. Do you make enough money for necessities?

Basic needs such as nutritious groceries, reliable transportation, and adequate housing tend to take up a large percentage of a lower-income worker’s pay than a high-income worker’s. A $20,000 worker will probably need to keep a very close eye on his/her expenses. A $100,000 worker have more flexibility (if that person doesn’t live above his/her means), and that includes the flexibility not have a budget.

4. Do you keep spending level below your income?

Someone who has a tendency to spend more than his/her income should always keep track of their spending. If you are happily bumping along a certain level of expenses and find it manageable given your savings goals, however, then a strict budget may not offer as much value.

Do you agree / disagree with what I’ve written? Do you live a life without a budget?

Guilty Financial Pleasure: keep your hobby on a budget and make money from it

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Living for the moment is a rule that some people love to live by. However, since the onset of the recession, many people became serial penny pinchers, determined to hold money in their bank accounts until the banks crumble with their money inside (well at least it’s insured, right?).

Despite the choice many have made to tighten their financial reins, some people are still working overtime for their guilty financial pleasures, refusing to let high expenses stop them from nurturing their favorite hobby or interest. But is this an acceptable thing to do? How can we know whether we should always penny pinch or whether it’s okay to go ahead and dive headfirst into our guilty pleasures?

Determine Whether Your Guilty Pleasure is Worth the Money

Obviously there are tons of benefits to saving money, just as many as there are downfalls to spending too much on something that doesn’t necessarily benefit you. So if you’re spending an arm and a leg on your guilty pleasure, it’s good to at some point ask yourself if it’s actually worth the money you’re paying.

For instance, if you love to purchase stamp collections because you love the way they look, you may have to ask yourself if spending $1,000 here and $5,000 there is worth it, especially if you are left trying to figure out how to pay your mortgage.

The same goes for the love you may have for fixing up cars or purchasing the latest cell phone every time one is released. Just because you see it and want it doesn’t necessarily mean you should spend your hard-earned money on it. So before you throw money away, it’s good to make sure what you buy is actually worth the money.

Turn Your Guilty Pleasure into Profit

What’s one way to determine whether your guilty pleasure is worth it? It helps to see if your hobby can offer you a profit. For instance, we all know that stamp collections can be very valuable. But if you are spending hundreds of dollars on stamps that aren’t worth much then your pleasure is not worth the money.

To make your hobby financially worth it, you could conduct plenty of research on the stamps you choose to gain knowledge of what’s valuable. That way, you would know that your stamps are actually making you a profit.

Same goes for fixing up your cars or even purchasing the latest cell phones. You could fix up your cars then enter them into car shows with cash rewards. And as you buy cell phones, you could blog about all of their elaborate upgrades and rake in money through advertisements for offering your expertise.

After you’ve collected your money, you could open one or more high interest savings accounts or looking into some investment strategies that could help you grow your money even further.

Create a Budget that Loves Your Guilty Pleasure

If you are engaging in a guilty pleasure that you can’t seem to turn into a profit. then it’s good to consider making sure that your budget accommodates your hobby. Many people find that they have drained their checking account because they spend haphazardly on what they love.

However, if you place your hobby into your budget, you could find ways to make spending work without breaking the bank. Adding your guilty pleasure to your budget could help you:

  • Organize: By taking a closer look at your budget, you have the opportunity to look at how much you’re bringing in and need to spend on bills. This could help you determine just how much leeway you have to spend on your hobby.
  • Make adjustments: Working on a budget helps us take a closer look at items we spend money on unnecessarily. For instance, you may have five subscriptions to magazines that you don’t read. By cutting those loose, you might be able to create space for your guilty pleasure.
  • Become financially responsible: The key to good money management is learning to restrict your wild spending. By adding your hobby to your budget and allowing yourself only a certain amount to spend on it each month, you learn the value of money and what it means to be financially responsible.

There’s nothing wrong with having a guilty pleasure. For many of us, it makes us feel that we’re actually living our lives to the fullest. However, if your pleasure is causing you financial pain, it’s good to take a look at how it could be budgeted into your finances — or even turned into a profit — so that you don’t go broke having fun.

Santa Barbara On A Budget

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Why Santa Barbara? Well, I have an interview half an hour away from the city, so I decided to visit my friend in beautiful Santa Barbara for a few days after the interview. Santa Barbara has been called the American Riviera for its beautiful beaches, charming downtown, and exorbitant prices! Fortunately I’ll be staying with my friend, so at least I can save on the lodging costs.

(For those of you keeping up, the job search is still going on. I am waiting to hear back from a few places, going on interviews, and chatting to recruiters. The job search is at once exciting and unsettling – I can feel a marked improvement in the job market compared to a few months ago, and I’m excited about the potential jobs I’ve applied for and interviewed for. Still, while interviews are easier to come by the competition for an offer remains intense – wish me luck!).

In preparation for my trip, I’ve found several things for those will be visiting Santa Barbara on a budget:

Hotels - It’s not cheap to stay in a slice of Santa Barbara, fortunately, if you are forgiving of tight spaces, thin towels, and perhaps lumpy beds, you can find cool and funky motels to stay in without breaking the bank.

  • The Presidio Motel: Rates aren’t listed on their website, but I called about a year ago, and received quotes of $100 to $150 per night for weekend stays.
  • The Agave Inn: A sister hotel to The Presidio Motel, The Agave Inn is located 10 minutes from Downtown Santa Barbara and has rates in the $70-$100 range.
  • Inn at East Beach: For the last weekend of March, the cheapest rates available are $190 per room.

Dine - I love food, and Santa Barbara does not disappoint. I’ve had very good French food in this city (although not on a budget). If you can, I’d suggest you splurge at least once when you’re in the city.

  • Petit Valentien: A French bistro located downtown. I especially enjoy the appetizers (I like the variety, the ample portions, and the affordable prices). On my last trip to Santa Barbara, a friend and I split several appetizers, and the tab for us came out to be under $20 per person. Not bad for a nice evening meal on a budget.
  • Cajun Kitchen Cafe: One of my favorite places to get brunch in Santa Barbara. I’ve been here a few times, and my favorite is the salmon eggs benedict (a special, ~$10) and the cornbread. Prepare to be stuffed. Yum!

Play – What’s a vacation without some fun? Santa Barbara has a lot of places that visitors can go to for free or for cheap.

  • Santa Barbara Courthouse: I love love love this courthouse, which might be the most beautiful courthouse I have ever seen. Old-mission style architecture with emerald green lawns and statuesque palm trees – what else can you ask for? The Courthouse offers free tours, or you can just pop in on your own to admire the scenery (Budget brides can also get married at the courthouse for a low fee. See details here).
  • Urban Wine Tasting Trial: No time (or money?) to explore outside of downtown Santa Barbara? You can see go on a wine tasting trip with this handy PDF map of local wineries. Most places are around $5 a tasting for 5-8 wines, making this a fun and budget-friendly activity.

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Personal Finance Blog Crush: The Recap

A week ago I did a little interesting post on all the crushin’ that’s going on in the world of personal finance blogs.

Apparently, many money-savvy girls are a little starry-eyed over J.Money of Budgets Are Sexy (not quite fair, I say – the name clearly sends a sublimal message!) and Debt Ninja of Punch Debt In The Face. Both guys, coincidentally, are in committed relationships. Sorry girls!

The other boys to be mentioned are Ramit of IWTYTBR, Clever Dude, Single Guy Money, and Frugal Bachelor.

On the ladies’ side, My Pretty Pennies, Krystal, Money Mate Kate, Stacking Pennies, Fabulously Broke, Squawk Fox, and many more have received blog crush designations from boys AND girls. Yet more proof that money-savvy people are hot comodities!

As for my blog crush, it has to be what I think of as the quintessential  personal finance blog and one of the first blogs I’ve started reading – Jonathan of MyMoneyBlog! (I also think his avatar is really cute). Let’s see if this mention can entice him over here and leave a comment. icon wink Personal Finance Blog Crush: The Recap

Let’s Play A Little Game Called “I have a Blog Crush on _______”

It’s summer time, and love’s in the air.

The whole thing started when RevancheGS and I were chatting, and I (somehow having momentarily regressed to 8th grade), asked her who her male PF Blog Crush is. And I thought it’d be funny to ask that question to, well, other people.

The “rules” are such:

1. Your PF Blog Crush can be any personal finance blog written by a member opposite sex (or, a member of the sex you are attracted to in real life).

2. Add a couple sentences (or more, if you really can’t hold back) on why you find that particular blog / blogger attractive. I.e.,  “The way he budgets just makes my knees go weak!” Or, “She sounds so exciting when she talks about the deal she got at the tire store.”

3. It doesn’t matter if that blogger is attached (it’s all just fun. No homewrecking on this blog, promise!).

4. You can be a blogger or a reader. You can comment anonymously if you’re shy.

5. Please send this to your friends / tweet (please use shortened url at moourl.com/blogcrush) – the more people who chimes in, the more fun it’ll be.

Next week, I’ll do a little summary post on all the crushin’ going on in the PF blogosphere.

And…. let the commenting begin! icon wink Lets Play A Little Game Called I have a Blog Crush on

My Plans for Friday Night

Dinner with a dear old friend whom I haven’t seen in a YEAR.

Then, settle in with CB and this book, and enjoy milk and cookies.

Sometimes I worry that when I’m 30 or 40 I’ll regret not hitting the clubs in my 20s, but other times I’m struck by how perfectly, blissfully happy I am with very simple ingredients for low-key night: CB, friends, a good book, and food!