Generation Earn Q&A and Book Winners

Kimberly Palmer 300x200 Generation Earn Q&A and Book WinnersKimberly Palmer answers your questions on her new personal finance book for today’s twentysomethings, Generation Earn. Plus, the winners of the book giveaway are announced at the end of this post.

1. Is your book mainly descriptive or prescriptive? Did you do interviews with people of this generation and does this book detail their strategies, or are these theoretical suggestions for strategies we should employ? If the latter, how many have you tried out yourself?

The book is based on my interviews with people in their 20s, 30s, and 40s who, for the most part, figured out how to successfully take control of their financial lives so they feel financially secure, can support their families, and even give back ways that align with their values and goals.  I picked most of the people profiled because they were doing something a little different, or inspiring, and I wanted to get to know them better. And yes, I have tried out a lot of the ideas myself!

2. What is the most common obstacle is for getting out of debt?

Feeling completely overwhelmed. Having debt, especially larger quantities of it, can be paralyzing. Taking small steps is usually the best way to start, but of course, it’s easier said than done.  In my chapter on debt, I profile Veronica, who recently finished grad school. She has over $100,000 in student loans and had a lot of trouble finding a job after she got her degree.  But now, after getting hired at a nonprofit and a lot of hard work, she’s saving 10 percent of her salary and slowly paying off the debt.

3. How did you first become interested in personal finance?

After getting hired at US News & World Report to be a business reporter, I found myself more and more drawn to the personal side of money. I discovered I loved talking to people about their decisions, goals, and motivators. It was more interesting to me than looking at companies’ balance sheets and annual reports!

4. How do you choose between renting and owning. When do you know that you’re ready?

Such a tough question because it depends on so many factors, including where you live, your lifestyle, and your financial goals. Personally, I didn’t feel ready until I had enough money saved to make a 20 percent down payment and buy a house I could see myself living in for the next five to 10 years, at least. But I could also see the upsides of continuing to rent, especially given the many uncertainties in the economy.

5. How do you know when you’re “Set”? Everyone has a different number for what you need to do to build a healthy financial future, but how do you know what you will be comfortable with? I know I need to put money aside to save for retirement, but how much is “ok”? I have other things I need to save for as well – house, marriage, emergency fund, etc, and I still want to enjoy life!

For example, I have around 35% ($750) of my take home pay available for saving to different areas. Is it fine to put $325 of that to retirement, and the rest to other savings (vacation, home, emergency fund, wedding), or do I need more money going into that retirement fund? If it matters, I’m 25 and with no debt.

I think even if you had a million dollars in the bank, you might still feel like it’s not enough. There’s definitely something to be said for living in the moment and not being overly stingy in the name of savings. And that’s the tricky part, figuring out that balance for yourself. Personally, I like to go on a percentage goal for savings like the one you describe, so you’re always living below your means, which means collecting a sizable amount of savings for a rainy day.

My recommended goal is to save at least one quarter of your income, and ideally one-third. That includes money going into retirement savings accounts, too. A good goal is to put 20 percent of your income into your retirement savings account from pre-tax dollars and then save 15 percent into after-tax accounts for emergencies and goals, such as a home purchase or travel. It sounds like you are doing just that, and to be doing it at age 25 is especially impressive!

6. We know we have to save for retirement, build our nest egg, pay our debts and invest, but sometimes it feels so difficult to tackle all those things with a recently-grad paycheck. Is there a hierarchy of importance as to which of these aspects we should focus more money into? should we do it proportionally instead?

Also, If we’re planning on investing, but only on moderate amounts (im thinking on $100 monthly for the first year and then review it) which is the safer (yet at least mildly profitable) long-term choice? Should we invest in the housing market or wait a little longer?

Yes, you are right, setting up these priorities is key! I like your approach of starting with a realistic amount to invest each month instead of waiting until you feel like you have “extra” money, which of course will never happen.

Here’s how I recommend setting up the priorities, starting with what’s most important and with the estimated percentage of your spending dollars:

1.         The basics: food, housing, and transportation: 50 percent

2.         Debt payments: Less than 5 percent

3.         Savings: 25 percent

4.         Professional expenses: Less than 5 percent

5.         Household expenses: Less than 5 percent

6.         Entertainment: 5 percent

The categories don’t add up to 100 percent to leave yourself from wiggle room and so you can personalize the plan for yourself.

To answer your investing question, I would recommend sticking with something low-fee and simple, such as an S&P 500 index fund. Investing in the housing market is complicated because it usually means you’re money is locked up and hard to access if you need it. Whether or not to buy a house is a separate question (addressed above!), but don’t buy a house just for the investment return.

7. How did you growing up influence or shape your views on Personal Finance?

My parents had a huge impact on me! They set an example of always living below their means. Even though they earned just $40,000 (combined) as newlyweds, they managed to save $10,000 in one year so they could buy their first house. Of course, this was in the 1970s, so it was easier to live on $40,000, but still – they saved one-quarter of their income. And even though they bought us whatever we needed for school, they were frugal in other areas and didn’t let us waste.

8. Any advice or tips for putting aside money for large purchases (car, home, etc), without the temptation to draw money from those accounts when in a bind?

Every month, when you are preparing to transfer money from your bank account into your savings account (or investment fund), make a celebration of it, so it feels as good as splurging on some indulgent purchase. Turn it into a ritual. Then, once it’s in that savings or investing account, it’s not as easy to access, even if you’re tempted.

In addition, you should be automatically saving money through your retirement account so you’re not even aware that you had the money to begin with– that way you won’t miss it. You might even want to set up the same feature on your bank account so it automatically saves money out of your paycheck. A combination of automatic saving and celebratory saving should help you get to your goal.

9. What is your advice regarding planning for taking care of parents for Generation Earn, since many of them will have parents whose retirement plans were hit by the recent economic downturn, and may not fully recover in time for their retirement?

Great question and one reason I have a whole chapter on this topic. Taking care of parents is a huge concern for our generation. In fact, one survey found that two in five of us plan to give money to our parents at some point.  First, I recommend keeping an open mind. Even though our first reaction is often to feel resentful of these requests for help, it’s not always a bad idea, because our parents did, after all, raise us!

If you find yourself in this situation, first decide if you are able to help without putting your own financial security at risk. If the answer is yes, then consider giving a set amount instead of endless support whenever requests are made. That will help your parents (or other family member) to plan and get on top of their own budgets instead of grow dependent on you.  Also, look into non-financial ways you can help out: Could you sit down and help your parents come up with a budget, or better investment plan? Do they want help getting a part-time job in retirement? Maybe you could have more family meals together to save on food.

10. I would like to know if the author has any suggestions for 20-somethings who are feeling discouraged and jealous of their peers who are better off. I am making serious progress paying off my student loans, but then I look at my friends who own houses and make $$, and never had to deal with student loans, and it makes me really jealous. I try to focus on my own blessings, goals, and progress, but this still pops up from time to time. Thanks!

Yes! My advice is to embrace these feelings of jealousy. It sounds counter-intuitive, but some types of jealousy can be very useful to us because it helps to show us what we truly want. It sounds like what you want is financial security and maybe even luxury – and that you’re making steady progress towards getting there. Beyond that, remember that their lives are probably not as perfect as they seem. Everyone has their own internal struggles that aren’t always obvious. If they received money from their parents, then they might be beholden to them in some way. Celebrate your independence!

11. What is the difference between our generation and our parents (or previous) that made us generation consumer/debt/spoiled.

I completely reject the idea that we are “generation debt.” Yes, credit card debt and student loan debt has risen, but that’s largely because we are seeking more degrees and earning higher incomes. One of the key differences of our generation is that we have been shaped by two recessions in the last 10 years. It’s taught us to be savvier with our money and more financially conservative, which, in the long-run, will probably help us.

12. In your personal opinion (and after doing the research you did) so you think our Generation (Generation Y, or as you call it Generation Earn) will be one of the most successful generations or one of the worst in terms of saving money, being financially savvy, etc?

Maybe I’m being overly optimistic, but I think we are spearheading a new wave of financial savviness. Just look at all the websites and blogs dedicated to being smart with your money. We love talking about this stuff and educating ourselves, and that will pay-off.

And… the winners of the giveaway are Yumi, Kathleen, and Kari!

I will forward your contact information to Kim so she can arrange for your books to be shipped to you.

Thanks to everyone who have entered the contest. Also a big thanks to Kim for her answers and for providing the books to be given away.

Q&A with Manisha Thakor, Co-Author of Get Financially Naked, Part 4

Welcome to Part 4 of the Q&A with Manisha Thakor, co-author with Sharon Kedar of the new book GET FINANCIALLY NAKED: how to talk money with your honey.

**Due to the length and detail of these answers, I’ll be breaking the Q&A into 5 parts, with 1 winner revealed at the end of each Q&A. Look for the subsequent parts to come in a few days. See here for Part 1, Part 2, and Part 3. See here for my review of Get Financially Naked.

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Kelly b – How do you deal with a partner who is just too cheap when it is not a necessity in your life? My husband and I have lived with very little money but have finally gotten to be comfortable but he won’t let go of his ultra cheapness and it is major turn off! It is a difficult subject to broach so I would also like to know how to broach it.

Manisha - Yeeesh, this question hits home because I’m the ‘cheap one’ in our marriage icon smile Q&A with Manisha Thakor, Co Author of Get Financially Naked, Part 4 .  So as someone with a ridiculously strong frugal gene I can tell you that what helps me spend, and what I’m guessing will help your hubby spend, is have a clear financial roadmap.

What I need to know to indulge is that we’re not living beyond our means.  I’d recommend you sit down and review how much income you have coming in, what you are currently spending, and then identify… together… the areas where you have wiggle room to step up up the spending level.   Doing this as part of your annual household financial review process will keep it from feeling like you are attacking him. Your goal with the conversation is to help your household maximize it’s happiness.

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Elisabeth – My boyfriend complains that he spends too much buying dinner when we go out, but I buy and prepare all the groceries we eat in the home. Is there a better to argue that I’m chipping in a fair share than handing him my credit card statement every time he starts complaining? What would you do?

Manisha – This is a perfect example of where getting financially naked can be of perfect help.  I literally think you should keep ALL your grocery receipts and at the end of each week (or month, as you prefer) sit down with your boyfriend and show him exactly how much you’ve spent.  Ask him to do the same with receipts from dinner out, and compare.  The numbers won’t lie.  My experience is that individuals, male or female, who don’t do a lot of grocery shopping tend to be shell-shocked when they see how that all adds up.

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Kyle – What is the biggest mistake that couples make when attempting to combine finances?

Manisha – Hmmm, from what I’ve seen I’d say it’s consolidating pre-relationship debt of the other person (especially student loans) without fully understanding the long-term consequences.

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Vee – My question is at what point in the relationship is the best time to merge finances? (Obviously not right away, but I mean, after becoming engaged, before marrying, or not until after marriage sometime.)

Manisha - That’s not so far off from asking what’s the best time in a relationship to “merge bodies” to put it in PG language icon smile Q&A with Manisha Thakor, Co Author of Get Financially Naked, Part 4 .  My personal preference is not to merge money until after you are married and committed to each other for the long haul.  That said, life happens.  You may find the perfect house or perfect piece of land that you want to buy together before getting married.  In that scenario, I say tread carefully and take the time to make it legal – talk to a lawyer and literally draw up an agreement as to how you want to handle things if you split up.  It’s the financial version of hope for the best, but prepare for the worst.

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Mollie - I am really good at knowing what I spend, and handling my finances accordingly. I am a big believer in JOINT accounts when you get married, but is there an easy, non-tedious way for the couple to keep track of their spending together? I would default to being the “primary” PF person in the marriage, because of my interest (and his lack thereof), which would work… but we also need a system where we’re both involved and communicating.

Manisha - My suggestion would be for you to be the primary bill payer (so you’ll know all the repetitive ongoing payments) and then have a basket in the kitchen that your partner can drop receipts in for any thing he/she spends money on.  That way your partner just has to collect receipts – and you will take those and account for them in your record keeping system of choice.  At the end of each month, if your partner will sit through it, you can review the totals.  If that’s too much personal finance for you honey, you can have a semi-annual or annual family summit where you review the budget.

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Q&A with Manisha Thakor, Co-Author of Get Financially Naked, Part 3

Welcome to Part 3 of the Q&A with Manisha Thakor, co-author with Sharon Kedar of the new book GET FINANCIALLY NAKED: how to talk money with your honey.

**Due to the length and detail of these answers, I’ll be breaking the Q&A into 5 parts, with 1 winner revealed at the end of each Q&A. Look for the subsequent parts to come in a few days. See here for Q&A Part 1 and Part 2.

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MommyMel – What is the best way to protect your finances before and after marriage if your significant other will bring debt or a bad credit history to the table?

Manisha – Before marriage – talk about it openly and honestly.  Share a list of what you each own, owe, and your credit scores. Talk about what behaviors led to the numbers being what they are and how you might want to change going forward. My personal advice – do not combine finances or loan each other money. Discuss when you get married whether who is responsible for paying down that debt.  There are no right or wrong answers.  Some couples will decide that once married all previous debt accrued is a joint problem and you’ll work on paying it off together.  Other couples (this would be my preference) would say what happened pre-marriage stays pre-marriage and each person takes responsibility for cleaning up their financial situation that occurred pre-marriage and everything post-marriage becomes a joint problems.

After marriage – If you’ve gotten financially naked before marriage, this part should be the easy bit.  You know what the problems are, you know who is responsible for what.  Now your goal is to make sure you both keep each other fully informed about the progress you are making on the game plan you’ve set.  Additionally, because life happens, if there are any slip up, that you both commit to telling each other asap.

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Psychsarah – How often do Manisha and Sharon suggest you re-jig things in your financial life with your partner? I find that we’ve had tons of conversations over the years, gotten things pretty much figured out, but then we fall back into habits and arguments every now and again. Is there a timeline for a financial relationship “re-assessment”?

Manisha – In GET FINANCIALLY NAKED, Sharon & I suggest you have a “re-evaluation” conversation once a year.  Personally, I recommend January as then you can do a full recap of the prior years income and spending along with a review of whether you met your savings goals and how your investments have done.  If you have a volatile or uncertain income stream (you work for yourself or on commission) I personally recommend doing this exercise twice a year, in January and June.

The similarities between getting financially fit and getting physically fit are striking – keeping it simple and actually doing it are the two turbo charging agreements.  So don’t beat yourself up for falling back in to old habits & arguments.  That’s just human nature.  The antidote is to set up a structure (family financial summits) once or twice a year to nudge you back on track.

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Paranoidasteroid – How can you create an environment where you can track your spending as a couple, but without making the other person feel like they have no privacy. This is especially important now that husband isn’t working. I don’t want to track everything he does, but I still want to track our money together.

Manisha – This is an increasingly familiar scenario – and let me start off by saying how great it is that you want to track your spending during this difficult time when one of you isn’t working.  Human nature urges us to put our heads in the sand and your desire to track your spending is so much healthier.

My suggestion would be to do broad dollar categories.  So at the end of each month, tally up how much money was spend via: (1) credit cards, (2) debit cards, (3) checks/ / auto bill pay, and (4) cash.  The you will have a sum total of your spending which you can compare to your household income.  If you are in the red, THEN you can go back in and investigate where you need to trim things back.

By tracking, for now, the aggregate flow of cash rather than the specific categories (food, transportation, housing, entertainment, etc) you can make sure you are not going in the red without making your hubby feel like he’s got a 24/7 reality TV camera aimed at his wallet.  Over the long run and when you are ready, however, I recommend going back and doing a traditional category style budget.

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Jenn @ Paying Myself - How do you strike the balance when you’re cohabitating and/or married between accepting help and fixing your own financial mistakes (e.g. my boyfriend and I moved in together in the spring, and he has offered to help pay off my credit card debt)? How can helping each other out with past debts affect a relationship and how do you prevent it from becoming a problem? Any other words of advice in such a situation?

Manisha – Wow to be honest, that’s a tough one.  It’s like being asked, “how many children should we have?”  The answer is so highly personal.  The best advice I can give is that if someone is offering this type of help it should be as a gift, not a loan.

Loans, love, and family tend to be a fairly toxic mix over the long run.  And if it makes the recipient feel in any way obligated or beholden to the other person, think long and hard before accepting.  This kind of offer is great if it comes from a place of unconditional love and a desire to put to rest past mistakes.  Where it can become tricky is if the motivation is to control, dominate, or enable bad financial behavior.  Only you will know which category the offer falls in.  Bottom line, as a couple, you want this kind of help to be something you BOTH feel great about.

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Karin - My significant other and I have been together for almost two decades, and have always contributed 50/50 to expenses, savings and asset purchases. But I’m planning to return to full-time study next year to train for a new career, so will be spending some time out of the workforce (and living off my savings). I’d like to ask him to contribute more to our living expenses while I have no income, but after so many years of self-sufficiency am uncomfortable about even raising the subject. How do you start such a conversation?

Manisha - I LOVE this question, thank you so much for raising it.  I’m seeing this situation happen a LOT.  I think the way you raise it is straight up – you both love each other and want the best for each other over the long run.  If what’s holding you back is feeling like asking for help would make you less independent – I’m here to tell you that asking to readdress the split of expenses so as to protect your hard earned savings is a POWERFUL act.

When I need to raise a tricky subject I remind myself of this wonderful quote, “Truth is the best antiseptic.”  Just speak from your heart, acknowledge that it’s hard for you to even bring up the subject, and then put out on the table the proposal that you makes your heart sing.  You two can discuss from there to find a solution that works best for both of you.  So please, please, please – summon your inner power person and raise this topic.  I’m rooting for you!

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Q&A with Manisha Thakor, Co-Author of Get Financially Naked, Part 2

Welcome to Part 2 of the Q&A with Manisha Thakor, co-author with Sharon Kedar of the new book GET FINANCIALLY NAKED: how to talk money with your honey.

**Due to the length and detail of these answers, I’ll be breaking the Q&A into 4 parts, with 1 winner revealed at the end of each Q&A. Look for the subsequent parts to come in a few days. See here for Q&A Part 1.

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Red – How do you approach having serious financial discussions with a partner who is more concerned about “the now” than the future? My live-in boyfriend D is loathe to have financial discussions with me, though I have said many times that we should have a serious discussion about money and our goals.

When we have spoken (briefly) about opening savings accounts or retirement accounts, he says that planning for the future like that could be a waste of time. “What if you save up $50,000 and you die at 30?” is his common response.

I know other couples where one person has the responsibility of doing the saving while the other pays more living expenses to even things out, but I’d much rather know that we were both saving for retirement and putting money away for emergencies. How can I convince D that saving now will pay off later?

Manisha – Ahhh, welcome to the wonderful world of opposites attracting.  The root problem here is that you have a “future” orientation (as do I!) while your BF has a “now” orientation.  I suggest going to www.GetFinanciallyNaked.com and downloading two free exercises: (1) Your Money History, and (2) A Financial Compatibility Quiz.

The first will help each of you understand what is is in your life to date that drives your future/now orientation.  Understanding what’s at the root of that is a key step in finding common ground.  The quiz will help you see how you two compare on three metrics around money: knowledge, interest, and behavior.

Taken together (as we describe in our book, GET FINANCIALLY NAKED:  how to talk money with your honey) these two exercises can go a long way towards getting you both on the same page.

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SS4BC – How do you decide as a couple what an appropriate emergency fund is and who should contribute what % if the incomes aren’t equal?

Manisha – As a rough rule of thumb, 3 months is the minimum you’d want to aim for if both of you are working in steady, stable jobs.  If either of you is in an industry rife with downsizing, you want to increase that to 6 months.

As for how to contribute, I’d argue that you should do so proportionally to your income. So if your combined household income is $100,000 – and one makes $60,000 and the other makes $40,000, the person making $60,000 should contribute 60% of your monthly savings target and the other person would contribute 40%.

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SavingDiva - When do you think is the proper time to start a financial conversation with your significant other?

Manisha – My coauthor & I like to say… if you are willing to take your close off with each other one way, you should be willing to take your clothes off financially as well.  This doesn’t mean on the 3rd date but it does mean that when you think this person is someone you could see yourself in a long-term committed relationship with, it’s time to start the dialogue.

At a minimum, before you move in together or get married its a must to have this dialogue if you really want to invest in your long-term future together.

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MissAlphaWrites – How do you bring up bad credit history to a long-term boyfriend without scaring him off?

Manisha – Straight up.  Think about how David Letterman handled his “transgressions.”  That’s the role model I’d use.  State it honestly, head-on, and emphasize that the reason you are doing this is precisely because you want to have an open honest relationship.  Also discuss what you are doing to clean up your bad credit history so he can see that you are now on top of the issue.  One of the many great things about America… we love turnarounds icon smile Q&A with Manisha Thakor, Co Author of Get Financially Naked, Part 2

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InvestingNewbie - Is it appropriate to advise a significant other on their financial goals? If so, how can you do that without coming off as patronizing or not supportive?

Manisha - A good relationship is all about understanding what makes each other tick and learning to compromise so that each person can be as happy as possible.  As such, I’d say nope – not a great move to “advise” a significant other on their goals.

However, it is a GREAT idea to sit down once or twice a year and discuss together each of your personal goals and your goals for you two as a couple.  In the course of this mutual conversation it’s a great idea to ask for suggestions on how to improve your goals and to offer thoughts on how to help your significant other achieve theirs.

You may be thinking, “Manisha – that sounds like double speak!”  But the key is that by structuring the conversation as a routine mutual review you set the stage for a much more constructive dialogue that if out of the the blue you say (I’d I’ve had this urge…), “Hey, honey, have you maxed out your IRA for this year???”  The former helps bring you both closer… the latter feels attacking.

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Q&A with Manisha Thakor, Co-Author of Get Financially Naked, Part 1

Thank you to everyone who contributed questions to the Get Financially Naked and/or entered the giveaway, and a BIG thank you to Manisha for taking the time out of her busy schedule to give such detailed answers!

**Due to the length and detail of these answers, I’ll be breaking the Q&A into 5 parts, with 1 winner revealed at the end of each Q&A. Look for the subsequent parts to come in a few days.

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Bonnie: My BF is older than I am and has virtually no retirement savings right now. He did start a 401K last year, and he’s going to open up a Roth IRA soon. How much should he be contributing to ‘catch up’ to those of us who started in our 20s and early 30s?

Manisha: The short, tough love answer is… he should be socking away at least 15% for his retirement between this 401k and Roth IRA if he’s in his 40s. If he’s in his 50s, he’ll need to up that to 20%.  The rough rule of thumb is that in order to maintain your standard of living in retirement, you’ll need a nest egg that is between 20x – 25x the income you require to comfortably live on.

For each decade you delay past your early 30s, you’ll need to tack on an additional 5% to the oft quoted rule of thumb to “save 10% for your retirement annually” if you want to make up for lost time.

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Cate: When one partner is handling the majority of the finances, what is the best way to keep the other person up to speed on what’s going on with the money?

Manisha: In today’s CrazyBusy24/7 world… this scenario is increasingly the norm, not for gender reasons but for sheer lack of hours in the day.

The key in this situation is to sit down together at least once a year (and ideally twice) to discuss the following items:  (1) Your current net worth, i.e. what you own minus what you owe, (2) How much income your household has had year to date and how much you’ve spent, (3) How the difference in #2 has been handled – if it’s a positive number how was that money invested.  If you spent more than you earned, what was the source of debt and how can you bring it down asap.

I also advise couple to set a dollar amount above which they both agree to consult each other before spending / investing to make sure that during interim periods no one person can wander off the financial ranch.

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Kari: My bf and I have been living together for 3+ years. He is planning on going to law school part-time next year which will last for four years. I have been saving up to buy an apartment and plan to do so before he graduates.

He would live with me and pay a portion of the rent but cannot be on the mortgage or deed as assets will count against him for student loans. What’s the safest way to do this to ensure we’re both protected even if we broke up

Manisha: Good for you for having been a diligent saver.  Before I say anything else, I’m sending you a mental high five for that.  As for your question, to be honest, I personally feel that you should not buy property together if you are not married.  The sheer number of horror stories I’ve heard from couples who have would make your eyelashes self-curl.

My feeling is that if you have saved up money for the house and it’s your name alone on the mortgage and deed – then it’s your house.  That means that your BF is essentially paying rent.  The downside to him in this arrangement is that he is not building equity in your home. However, you are the one taking the risk by buying the home in the first place.  You could consult a real estate and/or family law professional to draft up a formal declaration between you two on how you want to divide things should you break up.

My advice, however, would be to keep it simple.  If you buy the house, you are the landlord and your BF for now is merely a tenant. There’s no shame in him renting! I’d also suggest thinking long and hard about buying a home – until you are sure you can put 20% down, will live there for at least 5 years, and that the sum total of your mortgage payments, property tax, insurance, and upkeep will not be more than 1/3rd of your gross income (and I say your income because you want to make sure you can still afford that home on your own if you and your BF split up).

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Mrs. Smith: I got married in August and have a question about melding finances. My husband has a pretty low credit score (based on some bad habits with credit cards in college) and mine is pretty high but has slumped a bit recently due to 5 months of unemployment and unusual credit card usage.

Is it better to work on improving one credit score before the other? For example, besides making minimum payments on all credit cards and student loans, should we pay down my debt first to get my score back up, or focus on his to bring him up while I continue to carry a credit card balance?

Also, would it help him (or hurt me) to add his name to my credit cards since traditionally (before the last few months) I had better terms on my cards, a better history and little to no balance? Thanks for your help!

Manisha: First, congratulations on both your marriage and your desire to get on top of your finances.  The desire to improve is 9/10th of the battle.

The best way for you both to improve your credit scores is for you to do these three things:  (1) Make all minimum monthly payments on time, every single month.  That’s drives 35% of your credit score.  (2) Each of you tackle your credit card debt simultaneously and try to pay 2x the minimum monthly payment each month on each card.  This will improve your “debt utilization ratio”which is 30% of your score, (3) Both of you should keep your oldest credit card open and in good standing as this shows length of credit history, which is 15% of your score.  Those three steps drive 80% of your credit score, and if practiced consistently for a 6-12 month period should improve both your scores.

Yes, you could try to get super tactical about whose debt to work on first – but credit scoring is not a precise science.  We don’t know with 100% certainty how every single action will affect your credit score, so therefore I suggest focusing on getting the big things right.

As for adding each other to your cards as authorized users for the sole purpose of trying to improve each other’s credit scores, personally I wouldn’t advise doing that.  If you want to have each other on the cards because you are both using them for mutually agreed upon joint expenses that you will responsibly make together… fine.

But the credit scoring system is very opaque.  While it appears that FICO is again considering behavior by authorized users in their calculations of credit scores, individual financial institutions that you may be going to for a loan are free to use their own methodology – which may or may not include authorized user data.

This is my long winded way of saying, rather than trying to game the system your time will be much better spent practicing the best possible personal finance habits from this point forward as that is what will improve the scores for both of you.

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